Partner doing chores badly is driving me crazy!

onomatopoeia99

Person_one wrote: »

Your house is clearly clean and tidy because your partner keeps it that way. Spend a year living on your own without dusting or hoovering at all and see how pleasant it is to live with!

I live alone. I know exactly what it's like, thanks.

Person_one wrote: »

Also, washing a surface with a damp cloth and a suitable cleaning product kind of is dusting, isn't it? What did you think I meant? Swishing a feather duster around the ornaments? :rotfl:

Using polish and a duster on stuff like ornaments, bookcases, windowsills (etc) in the lounge, bedrooms. Cleaning the bathroom isn't dusting :rotfl:

Person_one

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

I live alone. I know exactly what it's like, thanks.

Using polish and a duster on stuff like ornaments, bookcases, windowsills (etc) in the lounge, bedrooms. Cleaning the bathroom isn't dusting :rotfl:

Using polish is called polishing, not dusting. Dusting is just removing dust, I do it with a damp cloth or a multi-surface wipe thingy, including in the bathroom, dust gets there too...

missbiggles1

Person_one wrote: »

Anybody who wants to live in reasonably sanitary conditions and keep stuff past its first use.

I'm certainly no neat freak, but unless you live in a hotel with a laundry service there are unfortunately chores that need to be done in every home.

But not nearly as many chores as some people seem to think. I do think that some people (and unfortunately it's often women) make a rod for their own back.

karcher

Everyone's standards of cleanliness are different.
If a compromise can be reached then it shouldn't be an obstacle to a couple who are in love being together.

If the untidy/non-cleaner were to live alone, I am sure they would clean up eventually (unless of course they can live in detritus and grime forever - as some do!).

I know plenty of people who avoid cleaning and have a partner that does the task, but left alone, ultimately they would not live in years worth of filth and clean up after themselves.

Guess it's down to compromise in the end.

Although, putting frozen food in a cupboard suggests more major issues than just an inability to do household chores!

Person_one

missbiggles1 wrote: »

But not nearly as many chores as some people seem to think. I do think that some people (and unfortunately it's often women) make a rod for their own back.

The OP is talking about some pretty basic stuff here though, hardly the kind of thing you see on obsessive compulsive cleaners!

missbiggles1

Person_one wrote: »

Dusting and vacuuming need to be done, sorry, but claiming that you think they don't as an excuse for never bothering and letting a partner do them every single time is very unfair.

But surely the question is, how often?

What happens when one person (of either sex) think vacuuming daily is essential and the other believes that once a week is fine?

onlyroz

missbiggles1 wrote: »

But surely the question is, how often?

What happens when one person (of either sex) think vacuuming daily is essential and the other believes that once a week is fine?

Then the once-a-week-er vacuums weekly while the daily-er vacuums on the other days. If that isn't acceptable to either party then I doubt the relationship would last.

If one person wants to obsessively vacuum, dust and polish every day then I think they should be left to get on with it. However, it wouldn't be acceptable if the other people in the household never did any cleaning.

Person_one

missbiggles1 wrote: »

But surely the question is, how often?

What happens when one person (of either sex) think vacuuming daily is essential and the other believes that once a week is fine?

Compromise I suppose, maybe twice a week, once each? But I bet in that scenario the 'once a week is fine' person never actually picks up the hoover! :cool:

missbiggles1

onlyroz wrote: »

Then the once-a-week-er vacuums weekly while the daily-er vacuums on the other days. If that isn't acceptable to either party then I doubt the relationship would last.

If one person wants to obsessively vacuum, dust and polish every day then I think they should be left to get on with it. However, it wouldn't be acceptable if the other people in the household never did any cleaning.

I am completely with you on that one!

missbiggles1

Person_one wrote: »

Compromise I suppose, maybe twice a week, once each? But I bet in that scenario the 'once a week is fine' person never actually picks up the hoover! :cool:

When I was married to my ex, I got him to vaccuum every Sunday while I did something else. He was often said "Didn't we do this last week?".