OH wants a separation. I have no job. HELP!

justme111

Do not see improvement in understanding going far if one of the parties, able bodied adult, is not working in a hope to get more from another party that lives in a house share

FBaby

All I was saying is that you need to determine your legal position before you do something that may be detrimental

How can getting a job, meaning some level of independence, both financially, mentally and psychologically even be detrimental?

I applaud OP for taking the step to look for a job and succeeding at doing so considering the circumstances. Many long term unemployed could take example of her determination.

annandale

Hopefully the OP will post again soon and the thread might get back onto an even keel.

thorsoak

May be time to take your own advice?

Regards

annandale

I was going to say that but given that I seem to be the person he's singled out to report I thought that I had better not. Thread has been completely derailed by someone with their own baffling agenda.

And someone you can't say boo to for fear of being reported.

Pollycat

FBaby wrote: »

I applaud OP for taking the step to look for a job and succeeding at doing so considering the circumstances. Many long term unemployed could take example of her determination.

Me too. :T

Primrose

Pollycat wrote: »

Me too. :T

And me. Zippy has done really well to get herself up and running with a new job so soon in very difficult emotional circumstances. I wonder if, in a relatively short time, her husband will look back with regret and wonder if, with a little more co-operation on his part, he could have saved this relationship now all her determined characteristics are coming to the fore. He sounds a pretty self-centred individual and she is probably better off without him. I hope that with the confidence she's getting from her new job with its wider social contacts, she will be able to make a successful new life for herself.

justme111

Wow. I am not sure what is happening in your life but it must be very not nice. I do not see any point in debating anything with you

annandale

Btw people don't get sectioned simply for expressing that they are suicidal. Thankfully. If the poster who charged in with all guns blazing had read the thread properly he'd have seen that the OP also said that she had no intention of following through with those thoughts.

Nothing like someone coming onto a thread, trying to bulldoze it and then threatening to report because people aren't agreeing with him.

Pollycat

Primrose wrote: »

And me. Zippy has done really well to get herself up and running with a new job so soon in very difficult emotional circumstances. I wonder if, in a relatively short time, her husband will look back with regret and wonder if, with a little more co-operation on his part, he could have saved this relationship now all her determined characteristics are coming to the fore. He sounds a pretty self-centred individual and she is probably better off without him. I hope that with the confidence she's getting from her new job with its wider social contacts, she will be able to make a successful new life for herself.

I can see it working out like this too.

A very good friend of mine went through a dreadful time when her husband sodded off wirth someone else.
He wasn't content with that but made her life a misery in all sorts of ways.

He too refused to speak to her and several years on, is still the same. He won't even discuss the children.

But now - she's as happy as Larry. Has a good social life, house, car and says it was the best thing that could have happened. She didn't realise how poorly he was treating her.

I hope this is how Zippy's life will work out.