OH wants a separation. I have no job. HELP!

zippy1997

jamiehelsinki wrote: »

I think by the time one person in a relationship says they want out, the relationship is often a long time dead.

I'm in the middle of a divorce at the moment, it is hard at times but I don't regret it one bit, the reasons for me wanting a divorce have still happened, speaking to a councillor would not change my mind.

If my wife didn't want to divorce she should have made different choices 18 months ago but made her choice back then.

Oh I am coming round to this yes. He is adamant and I need to remind myself that it won't change and live with that in mind.
The counselling is for early childhood issues he has never resolved. Whether that makes any difference to his feelings for our marriage isn't the point at the moment.
Same with my choice to see my GP for counselling. I have issues I need to sort out so I can move forward myself, with or without my OH.

zippy1997

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Try the major job sites too - Reed and Indeed are my favourites. Upload a CV, and it means you don't have to fill in dozens of applications good luck!

HBS x

Thanks, Yep, I'm on there minute by minute! Waiting for new ones to be posted is a tough thing!

zippy1997

deannatrois wrote: »

MIND might be worth phoning, they aren't expensive relatively speaking (they have a scale depending on income, I paid £10 a session) and waiting lists are relatively short (depending on area).

Thanks I'll take a look. I just need to know how to handle things and change my mindset on others.

Person_one

zippy1997 wrote: »

Oh god I just go an interview for Monday. (not oh god as in bad but oh god as I'm now wetting myself!)

Did you go to the interview today?

zippy1997

I didn't no.
I do however have 2 phone interviews this week plus 3 face-to-face interviews as well. Every day is covered! The one on Friday is one I'm really interested in if I'm honest so I can work my way towards that. But I will put the effort in with all and see what happens. I can only (try) to be myself.

justme111

Well done x

zippy1997

The one on Thurs is actually for 2 applications I filled in for the same company, just different shifts/hours. Those and the Fri interview I only filled in this morning!
I am trying to take one day at a time rather than get overwhelmed thinking about all of them.

zippy1997

Well, did my first phone interview. Shaking like a leaf, waffling more than I should and talking way to fast I feel! But the world didn't end! Although saying that, the lady on the phone was also talking pretty fast!

heartbreak_star

Well done - they only get easier from here

HBS x

zippy1997

The 2nd interview - face to face - was a joke! A 21 yr old sales guy who had all the patter down, was trying to sell me the job, was late, and swore twice! I wouldn't even buy products from them let alone work for them!

The phone interview resulted in a branch interview on Thurs. So that's something.
I have another phone interview tomorrow plus a Dr's appointment to try and get some counselling.

It's been a funny day, some times I'm up then I'm down. Tonight OH wanted to talk about finances and I just had to walk away once he started to talk about selling the house. I know it has to be done but it's still raw right now and moving out is one thing but selling will take time to stomach.

We haven't even told the kids yet. That's at the weekend. I hope anyway. Leaving it later (too near Christmas) would be very cruel. I'm sure neither have any clue what's about to happen. And that's something I'm having trouble dealing with.