OH wants a separation. I have no job. HELP!

prosaver

Btw have you done a budject plan , for your monthly bills . Council tax ,water..ect?

prosaver

duchy wrote: »

The dog won't be working:rotfl:

I think the OP is thinking a morning job , time to go home to walk the dog then off out again for the other job in the afternoons

Maybe she could start a business dog walking :beer:
I mean her not the dog

zippy1997

duchy wrote: »

I think you need to be realistic though.
Two part time jobs mean usually two minimum wage jobs , double the travelling, complications with tax and NI not to mention the added difficulty of finding two jobs with hours that exactly dovetail and no expectation of flexibility to cover other staff holidays or sickness.
I do know someone who does this but she works nights in her full time job (Royal Mail) and termtime as a school bus escort transporting kids with disabilities to and from school. A job in retail or as a carer tends to look for some flexibility (to suit the employer not the employee).

If you have a non Barky dog there are well known and respected companies that employ staff to work from home as customer service agents (not cold selling but taking incoming calls to the companies)which might suit you, but not if the dog is audiable when you are on the phone.

True I hadn't thought of those implications.
Ido notice flexibility is required for most roles these days.

He's only a barky dog when the door bell rings or Eastenders/Holby theme tunes are on TV!

zippy1997

prosaver wrote: »

Btw have you done a budject plan , for your monthly bills . Council tax ,water..ect?

No, not yet. OH has been getting in quite late so we haven't had time to sit down and work anything out. Without knowing what he has in mind it's pointless me doing it I feel.

zippy1997

prosaver wrote: »

Maybe she could start a business dog walking :beer:
I mean her not the dog

I have thought of that! Not sure how much money you make from that though or if it's more of a hobby type thing.

Tiddlywinks

zippy1997 wrote: »

Gotta admit I'm concerned about the dog. He's very subdued and sad. I can't obviously keep pampering him all day every day, he misses time with OH and DD does her best, but obviously she's a teenager and doesn't want to spend all evening with the dog.
I don't want to rehome the dog and will try everything not to but I have to think of him as well. Last resort. He's a breed that is very intelligent and needs exercise/stimulation. If we do have to move into a flat then that would be even tougher as he loves the outdoors. It's a tricky situation for sure. But one I will try to resolve and keep the dog.

OH mainly deals with the dog - re: trimming paws, flea/tick treatments, bathing etc.. - so I'm going to have get confident with those things. Although bathing is going to need 2 people as he's a big dog!

Now you see I think you're doing the old passive aggressive emotional blackmail thing again - this time about the dog.

You're making some things out to be massive obstacles and looking for reasons not to do stuff instead of looking at the positive ways you could be moving forward.

So - the dog's not really an issue is it - you can get a dog walker or work around it. Let's face it, if you really cared about the dog then you'd just make it work.

missbiggles1

zippy1997 wrote: »

Quick question: would you go for an interview with a company that you've now researched and found has very bad reviews?

In your situation, I don't think you can afford to be fussy. What have you got to lose?

zippy1997

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Now you see I think you're doing the old passive aggressive emotional blackmail thing again - this time about the dog.

You're making some things out to be massive obstacles and looking for reasons not to do stuff instead of looking at the positive ways you could be moving forward.

So - the dog's not really an issue is it - you can get a dog walker or work around it. Let's face it, if you really cared about the dog then you'd just make it work.

thank you for your reply, sorry you feel that way. I type what I think. That's obviously a bad thing. I have not mentioned the dog to my OH if that's what you mean. We will work around the dog, of course, but I can't just disregard him from my thinking. He's part of the family.

zippy1997

missbiggles1 wrote: »

In your situation, I don't think you can afford to be fussy. What have you got to lose?

That is true.

Tiddlywinks

zippy1997 wrote: »

thank you for your reply, sorry you feel that way. I type what I think. That's obviously a bad thing. I have not mentioned the dog to my OH if that's what you mean. We will work around the dog, of course, but I can't just disregard him from my thinking. He's part of the family.

There you go again...

I haven't even suggested you 'disregard' the dog.

I am well aware that a dog is part of a family, are you really aware too? I mean YOU are the one keen to keep on with the theme that your dog is a potential problem and that you might have to get rid of him - there is a simple solution (dog walker) which has been mentioned several times yet you keep raising your dog as a obstacle.

Now you say you haven't discussed the dog with your OH yet earlier in the thread you said he suggested it be re-homed.

Hmm.