Parents vs Grandparents - Christmas cancelled?

hunters

How very sad, some of my happiest memories as a youngster are of my Grandpa who died when I was 10. He let me away with blue murder and I'm very grateful for those memories.

Andypandyboy

LandyAndy wrote: »

On the contrary. I imagine they are delighted with the responses so far.

Yes, I think so too. Something doesn't quite hold together does it?

prosaver

TeamPlum wrote: »

Hang on, let's be fair, other bits not withstanding -

I'd be annoyed if I'd said no more cake, and someone gave my child more cake.

but she left her tomatoes and why did she put them on her own plate if she doesnt like them,

POPPYOSCAR

LandyAndy wrote: »

On the contrary. I imagine they are delighted with the responses so far.

Yes I agree.

Light the blue touch paper and stand back...............

Pollycat

LandyAndy wrote: »

On the contrary. I imagine they are delighted with the responses so far.

I doubt very much that the OP will be back.

On every thread she's started she's never revisited it to re-post.

AylesburyDuck

orangesandapples wrote: »

Maybe so, but it isn't their job to undermine their daughter's wishes and the grandparent should have accepted this. From what it seems this has been an ongoing issue and nothing will change unless the grandparents respect their daughter as the mother she is and the OP swallows her pride and accepts any apology they give.

Your joking right?
Other way around, the OP has been majorly rude over petty things, and seems to have control issues.
I suggest its her that needs to show remorse.

BJV

TBH I sort of understand where the OP is coming from and reading some of the posts I think that some are being a bit harsh.

I have two children and a mother in law I do not get on with - can not bear to be in the same room, its been like this for over 20 years so not going to change now. The feeling is mutual so its fine I have come to terms with it. The reason I mention it is that my two go to stay with them for three weeks every summer holiday and I know she spoils them rotten as they themselves say nanny's house nanny's rules but equally my house my rules. I also understand the undermining in own home. Had it done to be not nice !!!! I got very upset so I understand.

We all want to do the best or what we think is the best for our children and we all make mistakes - god I have. I want my children, and I am sure all the other parents on this forum want the same - to be healthy and happy. Have weight issues of my own I have made a choice to try and give them healthy eating habits. So massive cake loads of sugar for a toddler would not be top of my lists. ESP if the OP had said no then parents knowing her choices did it anyway. Don't forget her house her rules.


OP I love my parents dearly and we still fall out. Have disagreements that is what families do. But I still love them and they are still a massive part of my and my families life.

If you feel that strongly and clearly you do I would try the harsh life lesson of rising above it and make contact. Take the moral high ground and show your children the important life lesson of being able to forgive and forget and how families stick together through thick and thin.

I wish you luck OP.

Primrose

You say you're a good mother. You may be, but forgive me for hinting that you may not be a very good daughter and you don't come across as a particularly nice human being. . Your parents were guests in your house and even if they are family, I think you need to give them some leeway as far as your children are concerned, otherwise they will continually feel unwelcome. You come across as a bit of a control freak actually.
I think a big climb down on your part is called for. Your parents must have been incredibly hurt. An extra piece of cake on an occasional visit by a grandparent is not the end of the world. Practice saving your indignation for the things in life which really matter. You say "I feel that for me to broach a truce would be to undermine myself and I'm not prepared to do that." Well, if you're never prepared to climb down and apologise for anything , that's a pretty unpleasant personality characteristic and if your parents stay away at Christmas, I think you may have to ask yourself who is really to blame.

Philip624

I wonder if the OP stores Tomatoes in the fridge, this is a common mistake and often makes them tasteless. They should be left out in the fruit bowl.

Pollycat

Philip624 wrote: »

I wonder if the OP stores Tomatoes in the fridge, this is a common mistake and often makes them tasteless. They should be left out in the fruit bowl.

I think tomatoes that have no taste is probably the least of the OPs worries.