Adult sharing bed with non-relative teen

beckysbobbles1

I do hate it when you simple ask for peoples opinions and they get so deep with the questions.


To your very simple question, yes I find it weird. Unless it was specifically told to the girls parents that they would all be sharing a bed, I would be furious.


I appreciate she either doesn't want the girls to be in a room alone or she's tried to save money but she should have booked a triple room.

AylesburyDuck

TheCountofNowhere wrote: »

I never said they did or didn't.



I've literally addressed this question in the most recent 3 or 4 posts I made in this thread.

Do you not feel that an online forum is the perfect place to get opinions from all different types of people? I wanted those opinions and I got them and I appreciate that. It opened my mind to a few things.

I'm sure it would be far more interesting if I posted that I was concerned that my MIL was a child abuser and asking whether I should inform the police, but that's not the case. I just wanted opinions on whether people thought it was ok for an adult to share a bed with a non-relative child after informing the parents differently.

Is it ok for that to be the purpose of the thread? Please could that be good enough?

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marleyboy

TheCountofNowhere wrote: »

I never said they did or didn't.



I've literally addressed this question in the most recent 3 or 4 posts I made in this thread.

Do you not feel that an online forum is the perfect place to get opinions from all different types of people? I wanted those opinions and I got them and I appreciate that. It opened my mind to a few things.

I'm sure it would be far more interesting if I posted that I was concerned that my MIL was a child abuser and asking whether I should inform the police, but that's not the case. I just wanted opinions on whether people thought it was ok for an adult to share a bed with a non-relative child after informing the parents differently.

Is it ok for that to be the purpose of the thread? Please could that be good enough?

Thats a little better, albeit a little politeness would not go amiss when given a reply or response by other members.. The majority would say its fine if there are no objections from those participating in this particular scenario where the MIL ISN'T a child abuser.

Lily-Rose_3

Ames wrote: »

It started when you had to be online to write emails, so shortening words saved money. I assume the D in front became accepted because otherwise it would be a random letter which could stand for several things.

It's not just relatives though - LOL, IYSWIM, IIUC...

Yeah, but they are acronyms of phrases. IMO it makes no sense to put DD and DH: you can just say daughter or husband. That said, it doesn't bother me, I just find it odd that people still do it.

Like I find it odd that people say ur 'instead' of 'your,' and use textspeak on forums. There's no need to even do it in texts now actually. It was OK when you only had 100 characters in a text, so you could say more with less characters, but these days, the amount of characters in a text, is pretty much unlimited, so there's no need.

TheCountofNowhere

marleyboy wrote: »

a little politeness would not go amiss

Apologies if I seem impolite. I have said thank you a number of times. Not sure where I have been rude, but I appreciate it's difficult to convey emotions on here.

marleyboy wrote: »

The majority would say its fine if there are no objections from those participating in this particular scenario where the MIL ISN'T a child abuser.

I disagree with your assessment of the majority's opinion of this circumstance.

I don't believe the majority would be ok with an adult misleading a child's parents and then sharing a bed with their child - even if the child does not complain.

LilElvis

TheCountofNowhere wrote: »

I disagree with your assessment of the majority's opinion of this circumstance.

I don't believe the majority would be ok with an adult misleading a child's parents and then sharing a bed with their child - even if the child does not complain.

You had clearly decided that what your MIL did was unacceptable before you started this thread so I really can't understand why you created it. Perhaps it was just to reinforce your beliefs? Annoyingly for you some haven't agreed.

Personally I can't see why you're getting your knickers in a knot over her behaviour as it hasn't affected you in any way and actually has nothing to do with you.

Jox

So how have they got on? Is it your wife's sister? Have they shared any photos on social media of their trip? Do they look happy? Was it a city break or was there a purpose to the trip? The hotels I have stayed in you have to go past reception when coming and going and they clean the room so they'll know there were 3 people in the room and may have provided a cot bed.

TheCountofNowhere

Jox wrote: »

So how have they got on? Is it your wife's sister? Have they shared any photos on social media of their trip? Do they look happy? Was it a city break or was there a purpose to the trip? The hotels I have stayed in you have to go past reception when coming and going and they clean the room so they'll know there were 3 people in the room and may have provided a cot bed.

There has been a further development on this issue but I think there's limited value in posting it on this forum. I dread to think what I'll be accused of implying and I'm sure my intentions for posting it will be fully investigated by the forum clique.

Look out for a thread in the future titled "Is it ok for a 14 year old friend of my SIL to stay in my house when her parents think she is staying with my MIL in a separate hotel room (but she wasn't) and she had never met me or my wife before now and her parents don't know us?"

TheCountofNowhere

LilElvis wrote: »

You had clearly decided that what your MIL did was unacceptable before you started this thread so I really can't understand why you created it.

The forum genius has finally posted.

It's taken 5 pages for someone to conclude that I thought this behaviour was unacceptable before I posted it.

Yes. Well done.

No-one has yet persuaded me I was/am wrong but I came into this open-minded. And I appreciated reading the other opinions.

Jox

So the 14 year old girl is now staying at your place and her parents don't know where she is? What sort of parents does she have when they let her go off with a woman they don't know and their daughter doesn't feel able to tell them where she is?