Adult sharing bed with non-relative teen

Leothecat

Should have said, my daughter has people sleeping over all the time. They sleep together in her double bed. That's fine but for me to get in there too???
Who wants to listen to them wittering on all night about make up and boys and being kept awake by the constant glare of their phone screens? Not me......

seven-day-weekend

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Not all teenagers are like this - I was a very passive, polite one who would have been mortified at 'making a fuss' over what the adult in charge decided was ok.

Yes, me too, I would not have questioned what my friend's mum had arranged, even if I felt uncomfortable with it.

As a parent, I would not be at all happy with this arrangement. Too intimate (I don't mean this in a sexual way) .

I can't imagine what the woman is thinking of.

Pollycat

TheCountofNowhere wrote: »

The daugher, friend and parents of the friend were told the MIL would be sleeping in a separate room.

TheCountofNowhere wrote: »

The daughter was told she would be sharing a hotel room with the friend, and this is what the friend and the friend's parents agreed to.

They arrive at the hotel to discover that my MIL has booked 1-room with 1-bed.

The MIL clearly lied to everybody.

I'm just not sure what business it is of the OP and what he intends to do now he has got a 'consensus of opinion'.

I can't see in any of the OP's posts that either of the girls have complained about the sleeping arrangements - although I did ask this seceral days ago:

Pollycat wrote: »

So what else did the daughter tell your wife?
Is she OK with the situation?
What does the daughter's friend think about sleeping in the same bed?

TheCountofNowhere

Pollycat wrote: »

I'm just not sure what business it is of the OP and what he intends to do now he has got a 'consensus of opinion'.

I'm not sure what business it is of yours to decide what is or isn't my business. This is a family issue that I have interest in - please don't worry yourself.

I'm also not sure why you think I have to do anything. At any point have I asked questions such as "what should I do next?" or "what would you do?" or "Should I address my concerns with MIL?". No, because that was not the purpose of this thread which is entirely clear in my posts.

Understanding other ways of thinking has value.

Pollycat

TheCountofNowhere wrote: »

I'm not sure what business it is of yours to decide what is or isn't my business. This is a family issue that I have interest in - please don't worry yourself.

I'm also not sure why you think I have to do anything. At any point have I asked questions such as "what should I do next?" or "what would you do?" or "Should I address my concerns with MIL?". No, because that was not the purpose of this thread which is entirely clear in my posts.

Understanding other ways of thinking has value.

When you put your private life in the public domain be prepared to get all sorts of comments & opinions you don't agree with or don't like.

And really, really - I'm not worrying myself.

marleyboy

Originally Posted by TheCountofNowhere
I'm not sure what business it is of yours to decide what is or isn't my business. This is a family issue that I have interest in - please don't worry yourself.

I'm also not sure why you think I have to do anything. At any point have I asked questions such as "what should I do next?" or "what would you do?" or "Should I address my concerns with MIL?". No, because that was not the purpose of this thread which is entirely clear in my posts.

Understanding other ways of thinking has value.

Family issues no longer become just family issues when plastered on an open and public forum.

It sounds innocent enough and unless the children air a complaint about the scenario there should be nothing to worry about.

I am not sure WHAT the purpose of this thread is, maybe OP could enlighten us to what the purpose is.

Pollycat

marleyboy wrote: »

Family issues no longer become just family issues when plastered on an open and public forum.

It sounds innocent enough and unless the children air a complaint about the scenario there should be nothing to worry about.

I am not sure WHAT the purpose of this thread is, maybe OP could enlighten us to what the purpose is.

I don't think that information is likely to be forthcoming - I've asked the question twice. :whistle:

Ames

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Doesn't bother me that much, but I find is weird. DD, DS, and DD. etc... ('Dear husband,' 'dear son,' and 'dear daughter' ... ) No idea why people do it. I have been posting on various forums on and off since the turn of the century, and people have always done this.

They also put DGS for grandson, and DGD for grandaughter too, which I find odd; why not just put grandson or grandaughter?! As you say, they don't shorten any other word. Weird. I always say 'my husband,' or 'my daughter.'

It started when you had to be online to write emails, so shortening words saved money. I assume the D in front became accepted because otherwise it would be a random letter which could stand for several things.

It's not just relatives though - LOL, IYSWIM, IIUC...

Pollycat

Ames wrote: »

It started when you had to be online to write emails, so shortening words saved money. I assume the D in front became accepted because otherwise it would be a random letter which could stand for several things.

It's not just relatives though - LOL, IYSWIM, IIUC...

Yes, David Cameron had difficulty understanding the meaning of this one.....
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-18032027

She [Rebekah Brooks] said the prime minister signed off most texts with the letters DC but occasionally used the acronym LOL.


But she said he stopped this when he learnt the text shorthand stood for "laugh out loud" not "lots of love".

:rotfl:

TheCountofNowhere

marleyboy wrote: »

Family issues no longer become just family issues when plastered on an open and public forum.

I never said they did or didn't.

marleyboy wrote: »

I am not sure WHAT the purpose of this thread is, maybe OP could enlighten us to what the purpose is.

I've literally addressed this question in the most recent 3 or 4 posts I made in this thread.

Do you not feel that an online forum is the perfect place to get opinions from all different types of people? I wanted those opinions and I got them and I appreciate that. It opened my mind to a few things.

I'm sure it would be far more interesting if I posted that I was concerned that my MIL was a child abuser and asking whether I should inform the police, but that's not the case. I just wanted opinions on whether people thought it was ok for an adult to share a bed with a non-relative child after informing the parents differently.

Is it ok for that to be the purpose of the thread? Please could that be good enough?