mother in Law grrrrr!!!!

Person_one

[quote=[Deleted User];70990575]Remember a few years ago we were sitting there and MIL just came out and said "OK I think I'll come on holidays with you this year". We hadn't even invited her!

Unfortunately, she did end up coming. Never again. Complete nightmare she was.[/QUOTE]

Sorry, but you didn't have to let that happen if you didn't want to, why did you?

pigpen

[quote=[Deleted User];70990575]Remember a few years ago we were sitting there and MIL just came out and said "OK I think I'll come on holidays with you this year". We hadn't even invited her!

Unfortunately, she did end up coming. Never again. Complete nightmare she was.[/QUOTE]

My mother took her mother on holiday one year and she behaved appallingly.. we think it was just that she was out of her depth in about country, unfamiliar surroundings and language and food and she just couldn't cope so got stressed and acted strangely.. she was perfectly fine once they got back home but they said never again!!

The correct answer to her statement she was coming was 'no you're not!' .. OH's mother offered to pay for a 'family holiday' .. me, him, our girls and her (his sister would probably whinge herself an invite and then want to bring whatever douche she was seeing at the time) .. I got out of that by saying 'not a chance and what about the passports?' ... OH's is expired, I can't have one and the 4 girls would all need one. No mention of my other children, not that I'd expect it.. but they are too young to stay home alone.

Pollycat

justme111 wrote: »

Haha
I suppose with grandparents it is like with children - one has to make allowances for them , forgive them things , tolerate them and enjoy the good things they have to offer. As with children, some of them are easier than others and some are more demanding ..

I think this also goes for Mothers - and I know which category mine fits into. :eek:

maman

justme111 wrote: »

Haha
I suppose with grandparents it is like with children - one has to make allowances for them , forgive them things , tolerate them and enjoy the good things they have to offer. As with children, some of them are easier than others and some are more demanding ..

I'm sure that's true but (from the limited information we have) it seems that in this case the DIL was having a hissy fit and only settled down when she'd had a tantrum of being rude and abusive when she didn't get her own way on here and then got her DH to take her side (whether he agreed or not) against his mother. Not very adult behaviour at all. At least children and grandparents have the excuse of being in first or second childhood!;)

justme111

Nobody is perfect, we have hissy fits with children sometimes as well , hopefully once one rants and has hissy fit one becomes calmer and she did write that she thought about what been said here so every little helps

Newly_retired

I went to see my granddaughter in her school play this week. I wouldn't have missed it for the world. So glad I have a daughter who is happy that I want to support her and her children.

Andypandyboy

Newly_retired wrote: »

I went to see my granddaughter in her school play this week. I wouldn't have missed it for the world. So glad I have a daughter who is happy that I want to support her and her children.

I think that is the key word. This a daughter in law. Heaven help the mothers of (some) sons.;)

Artytarty

I k o! It makes me nervous for when I will become one of the dreaded tribe of MILs !
I am about to come a MIL to a man, I think we have a good relationship but I suppose only time will tell.

Pollycat

There should be nothing to dread about becoming a MIL.

Mine welcomed me into the family and treated me exactly the same as her 2 daughters.

We had a great relationship.

chesky

My son in law has just been round - without me asking him - to remove my defunct dishwasher and to say he'll be round in the morning to fit my new one. I think it's safe to say I'm not the demon old harridan some folks think their m-I-l is. The only one who I never got on with was my son's ex partner (thank god they never actually married) and I'm so happy to say that since they split up, I have a wonderful relationship with my grandson, who I now see much more often than when they were together.

It's not always the older generation.