finding a break up really hard

melanzana

@ Always Working,

We wrote practically the same posts at exactly the same time!

I admire your fortitude, hope you are doing well.

Guest101

MatthewAinsworth wrote: »

When I used to feel like that my ps2 got me through, I thought at least I can use this life to play video games, and eat crisps

Ditto this. It's an easy hobby, takes your mind of things and is actually fun

carlosevenos

Robisere wrote: »

You're indulging yourself, wallowing in self-pity. Every day, someone in this world loses the person they love most. Some walk away, some pass away. You are still young enough to get out there and do something about this. Stop being a wuss, get off your backside and do something about it.

your probably right, and I am not helping myself.
I may get slated for this but I think it's a lot harder to lose someone who chose to leave to go to someone else than that person dying. At least when someone dies, there's nothing you could have done about it ( in most cases) and also it's not a rejection or a hit to your ego.

I think I would get over this easier if this was like my second or third relationship. Yeah people lose people they love all the time, but some people are better at dealing with it than others. It may take me a long time to get another gf, but just shows how much easier it is for some woman, I mean she moved on pretty quick

Robisere

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

Not helpful.

Yes it is, if he takes it in. But with everyone else encouraging his self-pity, how is he ever going to get out of that hole?

I know what I am talking about, I have been in a similar situation. I come from another generation, we were taught to rely upon our own mental and emotional resources. Telling him the truth is best: she is not coming back to you. Suck it up and move on.

System

On the other hand, you know you're losing someone who IS good if a spouse dies.

System

I recognise your good intention, robisere, I made a thread recently to that effect but got taken down. I dont we are encouraging self pity here, we've identified it as the problem

piglet74

I'm almost 42, and to be honest, you sound quite immature to me,

Maybe it just come to the stage for her, where the age gap was undeniable, and why she's now seeing someone nearer her own age.

carlosevenos

i am a bit immature, I don't deny that, and that's probably why ive found it harder than most to deal with

piglet74

Look in "younger places", date someone in the 22 \ 28 age bracket next time,

Break ups can be hard to deal with regardless of age,

Where did you meet your ex? Is it possible that for her, it started out as a fling with a toyboy, that just rumbled on a few years?

System

Its going through pain that makes the man