finding a break up really hard

carlosevenos

yeh i went travelling for a bit with a friend a for a couple months in 2010. Tempted to do it again but by myself, but need to save some money.

I wish she'd just told me straight away though rather than wait and line someone up.

Maybe one day she'll miss me, but that's very doubtful.

I heard news today though that she's going to send her dog to the pound, as he's pooing in the house to much, and she wants to move into a new place.
That dog has been by her side for 12 years and she's just going to get rid of him like that. I'd take the dog but we have cats and rabbits.


All this stuff just makes it so hard to take, but have to let it go

yvonne13_2

OP I think it best you stop posting.

Sky_

1. A good cry--releases 'unhappy hormones'.

2. Exercise--a walk, join a gym and actually go, or similar

3. Find (and use) some online 'CBT for depression' techniques

4. If the above don't help, then go to the doctor and ask for help.

chesky

You are seriously repeating yourself and I don't think this thread is helping you any longer. I think you're in danger of becoming as dependent on it as you were on your relationship.

justme111

By the way, op ,I think you are brave. Not many people would been able to be so critical about themselves as you were in this thread.
Re going on and on about ex - better not of course but you are only human. People know me as very self assured and someone who has life well sorted but a few years ago after I been left I could not think about anything else for a few months , one of my friends did not think it was helpful to me me to talk about my ex and as a result I did not talk to her much for about a year as he was the topic I wanted to talk about. You will become a better person as a result of this , you just need to survive it like illness x

carlosevenos

justme111 wrote: »

By the way, op ,I think you are brave. Not many people would been able to be so critical about themselves as you were in this thread.
Re going on and on about ex - better not of course but you are only human. People know me as very self assured and someone who has life well sorted but a few years ago after I been left I could not think about anything else for a few months , one of my friends did not think it was helpful to me me to talk about my ex and as a result I did not talk to her much for about a year as he was the topic I wanted to talk about. You will become a better person as a result of this , you just need to survive it like illness x

yeh thanks very much for those encouraging words. I do talk about it too much but like you said they're on your mind constantly, and life just doesn't feel the same without them.
I just have to somehow forgive myself for the mistakes I've made. It's surreal thinking about that person being with someone so quick, but maybe I need that as if she was single, I may never give up hope.

I think as my mum is walking her dogs, I just hear updates that set me back, like today, knowing she's moving out with him. I should just wish her well and hope she's happy, but I just wish it was me that was with her. I'll try and not comment too much more on this, as I think many people on here, are getting fed up with me lol. But I understand why, as I keep repeating myself, and nothing good is coming of it.

Once again, thanks for your kind words

VfM4meplse

OP I felt for you until I read about your drug taking. You're allowed to wallow but why the deliberate self harm? Haven't you been hurt enough already?

carlosevenos

i thought it was actually a relatively harmless drug, but banned none the less. i now dont take any drugs besides alcohol. for the last 6-7 weeks, Still finding it tough tho, but now i feel all of the pain. But hopefully it'll stop soon though, because it's not easy

justme111

VfM4meplse wrote: »

OP I felt for you until I read about your drug taking. You're allowed to wallow but why the deliberate self harm? Haven't you been hurt enough already?

Self harm is pretty common response. When one hurts for x reason one tries to escape it and by self harming changes focus from one pain to another , one that is more manageable and controlable and not so painful. Hope it makes sense.

Primrose

However tempting it is please don't use alcohol as your means of escape from all your problems. You are still young and risk permanently damaging your health. I watched a young relative destroy himself and die a horrible death thinking alcohol was an escape.

You will heal in time but you have got to believe in yourself and your capacity to eventually get over this. When you wake every morning you must remind yourself that you are one step further along the healing road.

As a previous poster has suggested perhaps it's now time to stop posting on this topic. You have a job, a roof over your head and food in your stomach. If you continue to pick at the scab, tempting though it is, it will never heal.