Screwed up big time

Smodlet

Or it could be a rat.

Lostinhere

I do not own the home so yes I can get a dro

The council have put us in a Bnb in quite literally the worst area of my city. I share a room with the kids and a bathroom with several other families. No cooking facilities just breakfast. It's disgusting but they say it will only be for six weeks max.

Caroline_a

He won't leave, he says he will leave when the house is sold and not before.

From your original post. So you own half a house...

suki1964

Lostinhere wrote: »

I do not own the home so yes I can get a dro

The council have put us in a Bnb in quite literally the worst area of my city. I share a room with the kids and a bathroom with several other families. No cooking facilities just breakfast. It's disgusting but they say it will only be for six weeks max.

Yesterday around tea time you said your dad was on his way ( two hour drive according to your previous posts) By 8 ish you were tucked up in bed in a hotel that dad had paid for till the weekend. Monday I took it as that's when you were planning to visit the council if you hadn't found rented accomadation that your dad was going to pay for before then

And now you are in a Council run BnB?

You and dad fall out again?

pigpen

it takes months to get a BnB place here.. I'm impressed.

cbrown372

Lostinhere wrote: »

I do not own the home so yes I can get a dro

The council have put us in a Bnb in quite literally the worst area of my city. I share a room with the kids and a bathroom with several other families. No cooking facilities just breakfast. It's disgusting but they say it will only be for six weeks max.

Never mind, at least you have internet

Nicki

So the DH has a debt to which he is liable in the amount of half his gross annual salary which OP spent and some posters are advising her not to pay any of this from her salary when she gets a job and also to rinse him for full maintenance. Why should she get to walk away paying nothing for a debt he knew nothing about and he is left in penury for years?

Keeping_Positive

Nicki wrote: »

So the DH has a debt to which he is liable in the amount of half his gross annual salary which OP spent and some posters are advising her not to pay any of this from her salary when she gets a job and also to rinse him for full maintenance. Why should she get to walk away paying nothing for a debt he knew nothing about and he is left in penury for years?

She may have spent it and im not saying she didnt make mistakes or overspend but her OH must take some responsibility and he benefited from the spending. Its not easy budgeting on a small wage with a child. He now earns more which is good but it wasn't always that way.

Tbh the OPs posts are odd to say the least so I'm thinking this is all hypothetical.

Nicki

Keeping_Positive wrote: »

She may have spent it and im not saying she didnt make mistakes or overspend but her OH must take some responsibility and he benefited from the spending. Its not easy budgeting on a small wage with a child. He now earns more which is good but it wasn't always that way.

Tbh the OPs posts are odd to say the least so I'm thinking this is all hypothetical.

Why should he take all the responsibility though? I think that's really unfair. When he pays his own living expenses and a big contribution to hers, he's not going to have a lot left to service the debt which means he's going to be paying this off for years and years whilst some are suggesting she gets to keep all her wages when she goes back to work to herself. That's monumentally unfair even if they did spend it together but on her account she spent the whole £15k without his knowledge!

itsanne

Keeping_Positive wrote: »

She may have spent it and im not saying she didnt make mistakes or overspend but her OH must take some responsibility and he benefited from the spending. Its not easy budgeting on a small wage with a child. He now earns more which is good but it wasn't always that way.

That's not the first time someone has suggested this. I don't get it.

Hypothetical or not:

First of all, if he didn't run up the debt, he knew nothing about it and it was kept hidden from him for a long time, how is it his responsibility? Legally, as some appears to be in his name, he's been landed with it (and the OP may well be lucky not to have been charged with fraud), but morally is a different story.

Secondly, how does benefitting from it without knowing there is any debt make him responsible? It would be different if he had been showered with lavish presents which he should have realised his wages would not allow, but that is not what (we are told) happened.

It may not be easy to budget with a child and a small wage, but that doesn't excuse his wife secretly building up debt - that part of things is not his fault.

I don't see the relevance of him now earning more but it not always being that way.