Screwed up big time

Lostinhere

How did you pay for a travelodge? I don't even have a penny!

I have said I have family. What I said was that none could put us up or help us financially. My gran gives food because it's tradition, now she gives lots more. I hadn't spoken to dad in years but when my sister told him he got in touch. A huge shock to me tbh!

Bare in mind that they all live 50 miles away too.

I haven't told dh I have left though by now he should have realised. He hasnt contacted me but no surprise there.

Ironically dd is really happy because she thinks it's exciting to be in a hotel. I managed to take her school stuff so she can go to school tomorrow,I just worry dh will snatch her as revenge

Lostinhere

Also to add as I have said at the time the debt accumulated he earned 19k and we'd gone from 2 incomes to 1. When his earnings increased to 30k we stopped using credit altogether.

I'm not interested in his money I'm just pointing out he has enough to move out right now as well as pay child support

FBaby

Your posts are so full of contradictions, I can only assume that this is how your mind works too.

Half your posts go on about how abusive your husband is, the other half goes on about how you are desperate to stay with him and how you begged him and can't believe he wouldn't give you another chance.

Then they are the posts about how your accept your faults in the debts issue, then suddenly it's absolutely not your fault and you are perfect.

More posts about how your husband is a danger to your children,who he is highly likely to kidnap justify why he should only see him in a children centre, then suddenly appears a post about how you don't fear for your life or that of your children.

You focus your posts on totally meaningless matters (the hard drive, cctv), yet don't want to discuss the important aspects of your situation.

Frankly, I can see how he ended up depressed, never knowing where he stood, never knowing when to trust.

pigpen

Lostinhere wrote: »

. I managed to take her school stuff so she can go to school tomorrow,I just worry dh will snatch her as revenge

that he might do.. I wouldn't be sending her anywhere without a residency order in place first so if he did take her you can get her straight back.

without a court order the school cannot deny him if he turns up for her.

suki1964

Lostinhere wrote: »

How did you pay for a travelodge? I don't even have a penny!

I have said I have family. What I said was that none could put us up or help us financially. My gran gives food because it's tradition, now she gives lots more. I hadn't spoken to dad in years but when my sister told him he got in touch. A huge shock to me tbh!

Bare in mind that they all live 50 miles away too.

I haven't told dh I have left though by now he should have realised. He hasnt contacted me but no surprise there.

Ironically dd is really happy because she thinks it's exciting to be in a hotel. I managed to take her school stuff so she can go to school tomorrow,I just worry dh will snatch her as revenge

How did I manage to pay? Out of the £75 I had in my own bank account

Don't forget I walked out at night so had sod all in place. You princess can ring up women's aid at 9 am and have a place by lunchtime. Hell they will even send a car to come get you


If your life is that intolerable, that's what you do. You don't sit and worry about hard drives, cctvs or how little money you have. You take yourself out of the situation, use the aid which is there for you,,and move on

You have been told this now for two weeks solid. I'm now calling troll

Lostinhere

I had no money at all in the bank.
I have left.

My dad has paid for a hotel, thankfully also breakfast. It had to be local because of dd school but I haven't yet decided where we will move. My dad will pay deposit and first month rent.

I feel better now I'm more pro active. My friends will come with me to get all our stuff and my friends partner can drive the van (my dad is hiring it) and well do it when dh at work.

Dd is blissfully asleep next to me and the little one too, I can't believe I've done it. I feel heartbroken but I think I did the right thing

meer53

Lostinhere wrote: »

I had no money at all in the bank.
I have left.

My dad has paid for a hotel, thankfully also breakfast. It had to be local because of dd school but I haven't yet decided where we will move. My dad will pay deposit and first month rent.

I feel better now I'm more pro active. My friends will come with me to get all our stuff and my friends partner can drive the van (my dad is hiring it) and well do it when dh at work.

Dd is blissfully asleep next to me and the little one too, I can't believe I've done it. I feel heartbroken but I think I did the right thing

6 months late in my opinion. When he smashed up the house would have been my cue to get myself and my kids the hell out of there.

itsanne

Lostinhere wrote: »

I have left.


I feel better now I'm more pro active.

I feel heartbroken but I think I did the right thing

Good. You've done the right thing and you won't stay heartbroken. You'll wonder why you took so long.


You've just started a new, better life. Good luck.

Nicki

When you get settled in a new place will you look for childcare and a job, or consider working from home, with a view to paying something off the joint debt too or reducing the amount of maintenance he has to pay? That would sound like the decent thing to do.

Mupette

precious things to you are the children, if you loose the pictures and videos yes upsetting, not the end of the world, you'll make new ones.
What if there was a fire and they pictures were lost anyway, again just as you should know the only precious things you need to concern yourself with right now is your babies - nothing else.


Thank god your father stepped in to sort you out.

Regardless of who did what where and when, no one cares, it's your drama and the more you say them the more you believe them.