Screwed up big time

hollydays

Lostinhere wrote: »

As I have repeatedly said, the hard drive has all the baby photos on,not all are backed up online and none of the videos are, that might be nothing to you but it breaks my heart "


I've known people who have run out of a house taking the child with them-virtually no possessions- theyve been that scared.

This is just drama you are creating .im not getting " abusive husband " .
I think there was another reason he took the hard drive, and he clearly didn't say" I'm taking these so you can't have your baby photos"

Izadora

Lostinhere wrote: »

I am a fantastic mother

You may think you are but, based on what you've posted here, you're really not. No decent, let alone fantastic, mother would let her children be subjected to what yours have gone through.

pigpen

hollydays wrote: »

I've known people who have run out of a house taking the child with them-virtually no possessions- theyve been that scared.
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My mother left without me!! She had the clothes on her back and nothing else.

hollydays

Anyway I'm off now.You said "The hard drive is not minor, it has my life on and he took it, knowing..."

Your life is your " actual" children.

Lostinhere

I never said I was staying because he stole the hard drive. I was simply saying my fear he would steal precious things is warranted base on that.

I do not fear for my life or the children's lives.

You all made out like I could just up and leave. Yet nobody could tell me how. With no petrol or money to go anywhere, not a single penny.

As it is my dad has paid for us to stay in a hotel til the weekend, if I haven't found somewhere by then I'll have to go to the council.

I disagree that I am a bad mum. When we've been at home I have kept them away from it all (bar one argument) so yes they can see him ignoring me but they haven't witnessed anything.

There are mums who's partners beat them in front of their kids but I'm s bad mum who deserves to lose her kids because of dh ignoring me and me not affording to leave. Wow

suki1964

I walked out on my husband at 9pm at night carrying what I could in a suitcase

I begged for a cheap rate at a travel lodge for that night, the first one I walked to. Lovely lady on reception even handed me an ashtray

The following morning I was in the council housing dept, that evening I was in a woman's refuge

I had no money nothing

They helped me claim for benefit and HB to pay the hostel. I was given a food parcel and bedding.

I had no access to our joint account. No contact with family as no one was allowed to know where I was

That's what you do when you are in such a bad place. Women's refuge are there to house you. They won't turn you away

swingaloo

If your husband can now pay nearly £400 maintenance and still have 'enough to live on' as you put it, then how come you needed to accumulate all that debt because it 'wasnt enough to live on' before.

elsien

Maybe he has the hard drive because they're his memories as well? Of his children as babies?
You two don't seem to have a concept of shared anything - my house, my children, my photos. In that respect you seem very similar in outlook.

cbrown372

So you have gone from having no family to help to having a sister, a grandmother who is buying your food and now a father who will pay for you to move out? WUM.

lulu_92

Lostinhere wrote: »

I never said I was staying because he stole the hard drive. I was simply saying my fear he would steal precious things is warranted base on that.

I do not fear for my life or the children's lives.

You all made out like I could just up and leave. Yet nobody could tell me how. With no petrol or money to go anywhere, not a single penny.

As it is my dad has paid for us to stay in a hotel til the weekend, if I haven't found somewhere by then I'll have to go to the council.

I disagree that I am a bad mum. When we've been at home I have kept them away from it all (bar one argument) so yes they can see him ignoring me but they haven't witnessed anything.

There are mums who's partners beat them in front of their kids but I'm s bad mum who deserves to lose her kids because of dh ignoring me and me not affording to leave. Wow

You really can't see the forest for the trees, can you?

In your eyes it's all black and white. You can't possibly be anything less than a fantastic mum because you don't do XYZ.

Everyone has told you what to do given the fact you have no money.

I agree with swingaloo, how come his money is now all of a sudden "more than enough" and why do you think you're entitled to every penny he has, bar his rent?