Screwed up big time

Lostinhere · 29 June 2016 at 12:59PM

Hang on, did you read the past few posts? To contribute towards repayment of debt rather than give him money I would tell him to reduce or stop the child support to the same amount, why is that wrong?

Does it matter if that money comes from him or my wages which will then go to him? Or should I not repay it at sll

tea_lover · 29 June 2016 at 1:03PM

But the money he would provide would be to support your (joint your) children, not pay the debt. Or are you suggesting that every penny he would pay would be towards your (singular your) debt, and the children don't see a penny of it??

enthusiasticsaver · 29 June 2016 at 1:18PM

I would suggest you speak to step change once you know what child support and benefits you will receive then make arrangement based on your income. Whose name is the debt in?

suki1964 · 29 June 2016 at 1:30PM

Tbh I'm wondering why you are online arguing the toss with complete strangers and not running around like a blue assed fly finding accomadation

Lostinhere · 29 June 2016 at 2:52PM

Step Change advised I get a debt relief order. Then I will not have to pay anything back.

I have found acconmodation

lozzy81 · 29 June 2016 at 3:21PM

You found accommodation already!! wow!

Well done!

All that worry about having nowhere to stay and no money! I hope you have called benefits office or tax credits and cms to get the ball rolling and some money in your account

Any word from your husband or any sign at the school gates?

Caroline_a · 29 June 2016 at 3:23PM

Lostinhere wrote: »

Hang on, did you read the past few posts? To contribute towards repayment of debt rather than give him money I would tell him to reduce or stop the child support to the same amount, why is that wrong?

Does it matter if that money comes from him or my wages which will then go to him? Or should I not repay it at sll

You really don't get it. Money paid by your husband is for maintenance for your children, not to pay off your debts. You have to pay off your own debts but not expect your children to fund whatever you spent all this money on. Your husband is not responsible for this money, only you, and your children certainly aren't.

Incidentally - if the house is owned rather than rented I don't think you'll be able to get a DRO - someone with more knowledge of this will correct me I'm sure, but if the house is a marital asset then it will have to be sold anyway.