Screwed up big time

charlie3090

Lostinhere wrote: »

Sorry for no reply it's been a whirlwind

The council offered me a flat in literally the ghetto but I had to accept it. I can now bid for a house and have emergency band.

I dobt have wifi atm but will update soon

best of luck,thanks for the update.

charlie3090

Lostinhere wrote: »

I had no money at all in the bank.
I have left.

My dad has paid for a hotel, thankfully also breakfast. It had to be local because of dd school but I haven't yet decided where we will move. My dad will pay deposit and first month rent.

I feel better now I'm more pro active. My friends will come with me to get all our stuff and my friends partner can drive the van (my dad is hiring it) and well do it when dh at work.

Dd is blissfully asleep next to me and the little one too, I can't believe I've done it. I feel heartbroken but I think I did the right thing

How lucky you are to get a flat in 6 days,
ghetto or not.

gran3

I don't often venture far from the Old Style boards and a quick scan of this thread has reminded me why. A plea for help met with allegations of OP lying, saying social services should be called about her and so much vitriol I cant believe people can be so vile. Is it because its in print and not face to face you feel its ok to abuse the OP?
I feel really sorry for some of the posters on here, a couple of prolific posters in particular who seem hell bent on taking the moral high ground and being so judgemental.

Its all truly truly sad beyond words.

paddy's_mum

The OP might be best occupied in getting a Charge put on the matrimonial home before her husband does something behind her back and sells it.

FBaby

Considering her name is not on the deeds of the house, it would be much quicker to file for divorce rather than proving a beneficial interest in court to prevent a sale.

jamiehelsinki

Op as a bloke I actually feel sorry for you with this situation.

A few things though, unless you really want a divorce then don't ask for one, it hurts being told this and causes resentment.

You asking him if he wants to split up was a bad question, you wanted him to say no and give you encouragement that he wanted to remain but to him it sounded like you wanted out. It would have been better if you had said " I really want to stay together and not split up, do you want the same?

Wedding rings again don't make threats about these.

The real issue seems to be he doesn't like what his life has become and blames you for this. This isn't fair on you, his life with you was probably typical of most guys his age and the argument about who should do what around the house is the same up and down the country. I typically work 50 hours per week my wife 20-25, she thinks I should do more around the house, I think she should as I work longer hours.
The strange thing I find in this is that the biggest problem men usually complain about in a relationship is a lack of sex and I don't think this was the case here.

I hope you get your life back on track anyway, good luck!

robbyfine

I'm sorry to read this. You both didn't work at your relationship and it was ruined. But you still have a chance to try changing everything. Do not to lie anymore, make some pleasant things for him. Read this: exback.how/husband and never give up. I believe your love is still alive but it badly needs to be nourished.