Screwed up big time

Pollycat

Mupette wrote: »

So you guys were happy to see 2 grown behave in a way that upset the children, a toxic environment?

Let me spin this like you two have done,

You both agree with child cruelty and abuse, Yes shame on you.

I'd like to trry to put some context to mupette's post above.
She was reversing the situation where a poster said this:

lilibet1 wrote: »

I have been watching this thread since the beginning and some of the posters have been very rude and bullied the poor woman. I would love to see how many of you would be happy if your other half disappeared overnight. It's a ludicrous situation and he obviously wasn't taking any notice of how she was managing and then threw his toys out of the pram when he realised there was debt....

Good luck to you with your future ahead.
Lili

which stated that some posters had been bullying and rude.

By sticking up for the OP and her actions wih regards to the well-being and safety of her young daughter (which I personally found very disturbing) it may be seen as condoning the fact that she insisted on remaining in the house with her husband in a situation that must have been very distressing to a 6(?) year old. Thereby putting that child in a position where she may have been subjected to cruelty and abuse.

Remaining - despite some personal anecdotal evidence from women who have been in as dangerous (or even worse) a situation as the OP unfortunately found herself in (in no small part as a result of her own actions) and those women decided to leave regardless.

I hope the OP is managing to get things sorted.

just_trying

Mupette wrote: »

They were both as bad as each other, he did stuff and so did the OP.

If no one told her to leave, do you think she would still be there? the little 6 year old stuck in the middle seeing the OP and husband like that all the time when they are in the house. I'd say yes she'd still be there if this story was true.

Sometimes people need a push in the right direction, I did.

Where i used to live we had a woman in an extremely unhealthy relationship where her fella beat the living daylights out of her she had several young children, even when pregnant with his child he would beat her, she would run hammering on all our doors begging to be let in, and each neighbour had her in sobbing and bleeding, she would refuse the police, and when asked why she stayed with him her reply was because i love him. the only way she got rid of him was when he was caught beating her and her friend with a metal dog chain and her friend went to the police he got 5 years, for all i know they could be back together living that life.

So yes i can see how it would be difficult for someone to work towards getting out of that situation. But the OP was ignoring what we were saying, she preferred to play the victim, she wanted all the attention when we were concerned about the welfare of the children, because someone has to.

But the OP changed her story a lot, so yes you get suspicious of if this was really legit.

Just thought of something as well, noticed your comment which has been removed this morning along with other posts you accusing me of being a bully, I'm not a bully first time I've been accused of that.

As for what you said about me basically agreeing with child abuse and neglect because I said I didn't agree with some posts, maybe you should read your post above about your neighbour and think what exactly you did.

Just to make this clear I don't and have never agreed with any cruelty towards children, the only thing I said was I thought some comments were nasty and I had that accusation thrown at me.

Mupette

just_trying wrote: »

Just thought of something as well, noticed your comment which has been removed this morning along with other posts you accusing me of being a bully, I'm not a bully first time I've been accused of that.

As for what you said about me basically agreeing with child abuse and neglect because I said I didn't agree with some posts, maybe you should read your post above about your neighbour and think what exactly you did.

Just to make this clear I don't and have never agreed with any cruelty towards children, the only thing I said was I thought some comments were nasty and I had that accusation thrown at me.

I begged my neighbour to do something, whilst mopping up her blood, her drug dealer boyfriend set his English bull Terrier on my pup I called the Police and i pestered them, his dog bit me and left permant marks and damage, The police were not interested, we all begged her to leave him, so yes we as a community helped her millions of times, social services were called because of his dealing and the attack on me and my dog.

So unless you were there i doubt you could judge me on what i tried to do to help this neighbour and her children, but she preferred him and his drugs and was obviously petrified of him, this i think is a little different don't you.

just_trying

Mupette wrote: »

I begged my neighbour to do something, whilst mopping up her blood, her drug dealer boyfriend set his English bull Terrier on my pup I called the Police and i pestered them, his dog bit me and left permant marks and damage, The police were not interested, we all begged her to leave him, so yes we as a community helped her millions of times, social services were called because of his dealing and the attack on me and my dog.

So unless you were there i doubt you could judge me on what i tried to do to help this neighbour and her children, but she preferred him and his drugs and was obviously petrified of him, this i think is a little different don't you.

Judge, like you did me. All I said was I thought some comments were nasty and you made malicious remarks about me totally unfounded which yes I think you should apologise for, but that's not going to happen.

Yes I said you were a idiot or referred to that you were after what you accused me of, I know I would rather be called a idiot than what you said about me.

Smodlet

Where is the OP? The last post I can find from her is 29/6.

Is she in a B&B with no wifi? What kind of B&B has no wifi in this day and age?

Is she in a shelter? In which case, I can see the merits of no wifi.

Is she, as has been suggested, I believe, under a bridge, presumably with no wifi?

If she is genuine, I sincerely hope she and her children are safe, warm and well fed.

If she is not, perhaps there is a reason she has not made contact for three days; she has achieved her purpose. Why does she need to intervene while everyone is at each others' throats?

just_trying

Suppose you r referring to me and mupette. Well no I'm not happy with what she said.

As for wifi believe it or not some charge. As for under a bridge comment, helpful I don't think.

Mupette

Smodlet wrote: »

Where is the OP? The last post I can find from her is 29/6.

Is she in a B&B with no wifi? What kind of B&B has no wifi in this day and age?

Is she in a shelter? In which case, I can see the merits of no wifi.

Is she, as has been suggested, I believe, under a bridge, presumably with no wifi?

If she is genuine, I sincerely hope she and her children are safe, warm and well fed.

If she is not, perhaps there is a reason she has not made contact for three days; she has achieved her purpose. Why does she need to intervene while everyone is at each others' throats?

For the amount of posts she made in a short space of time when out of the house, I have my suspicions that this was just a joke thread for attention - And I really really want to be wrong.

If this was a legit post then i hope she is concentrating on sorting her life out with her children. Who knows, I hope it is the latter.

Smodlet

just trying, someone did mention a bridge, earlier. My comment was purely in the interests of continuity. And there are plenty more people on this thread besides you and Muppette.

Let's hope we cynics are wrong and OP is safe and well and, more to the point, her children are. I wish she and her DH did not remind me so forcibly of our oh, so lovely neighbours. What is that quote, again? You do something nice for someone, you get everything you deserve, or something?

Mupette

Smodlet wrote: »

just trying, someone did mention a bridge, earlier. My comment was purely in the interests of continuity. And there are plenty more people on this thread besides you and Muppette.

Let's hope we cynics are wrong and OP is safe and well and, more to the point, her children are. I wish she and her DH did not remind me so forcibly of our oh, so lovely neighbours. What is that quote, again? You do something nice for someone, you get everything you deserve, or something?

you do something nice and it get's chucked back in your face? i know that one

Smodlet

Love your user name, Muppette, you know, I seriously considered that one. Would have been too late, of course.