Screwed up big time

tea_lover

OP, if I knew who you were IRL I'd contact social services. Your children deserve a lot better than this.

Lostinhere

How nice.

Well it turns out my sister told our dad what's going on and although we were estranged he's just rang and said he's on his way over. He's not happy at all with the situation.

He says he will pay the first months rent and deposit on a house on the condition that I pay back half.

So I guess that's that... On the bright side he can help with removals too.

pigpen

Lostinhere wrote: »

... he hasn't been anywhere for almost a month now.

He hasn't been out since you fessed up to the debt... that is the action of a responsible adult.. not wanting to lose his home so he quits the expensive nights out...

Tea lover, i think most of us would have contacted them too.. if this is true they need help, if it is made up they definitely need help!!

hollydays

I still don't get what the real significance of the hard drive is in all this. :undecided

honeypop

Lostinhere wrote: »

I really don't think it's fair on the children to be moved from pillar to post or have to suffer any more. A Bnb, refuge, temp flat and then on to a council house in possibly a whole different area, it's just a lot of upheaval.

I'm going to be blunt here because I realise I'm wasting my time replying anyway as you bat away any sensible advice: If you stay, then trying to undo the harm (mentally) to your children - and possibly yourself, but they are my point here - will be much more upheaval than they will suffer at moving to a safer environment in the near future.

You make out you are trying to put them first, but the right thing to do would be to start making steps to remove them from the whole sorry situation asap.

As said above, I'd report this without thinking twice if I knew it was going on with a family I knew.

Trixi

Lostinhere wrote: »

How nice.

Well it turns out my sister told our dad what's going on and although we were estranged he's just rang and said he's on his way over. He's not happy at all with the situation.

That's good news - hopefully you will now be able to move forward.

honeypop

Lostinhere wrote: »

How nice.

Well it turns out my sister told our dad what's going on and although we were estranged he's just rang and said he's on his way over. He's not happy at all with the situation.

He says he will pay the first months rent and deposit on a house on the condition that I pay back half.

So I guess that's that... On the bright side he can help with removals too.

Yes how nice. And a convenient end to the story.

pigpen

hollydays wrote: »

I still don't get what the real significance of the hard drive is in all this. :undecided

she can't browse the internet aimlessly building more debt?

Guest101

honeypop wrote: »

Yes how nice. And a convenient end to the story.

Too convenient?


- certainly felt that way to me.

Lostinhere

As I have repeatedly said, the hard drive has all the baby photos on,not all are backed up online and none of the videos are, that might be nothing to you but it breaks my heart

My dad is the type that won't take no for an answer so I suppose that is good as it helps me be strong. I still don't want to lose my home but no choice.

I am a fantastic mother and to say social need to be called is harsh, debt aside, I have done nothing wrong other than live in a house I couldn't leave without money. Sad truth is even if it's just for petrol or the bus to get to cab, I needed money.