Screwed up big time

balletshoes

no new ideas - phone the CAB, and phone women's aid.

ecgirl07

Change the bills to his name if he is not giving you money to cover them.

Cancel everything non essential sky etc.

Lostinhere

Yes I will change the bills, good idea!!

*Robin*

Lostinhere wrote: »

Yes I will change the bills, good idea!!

Doesn't that require the signature of the person named on the utility accounts?

[Deleted User]

Are you picking up the full allowance benefits wise for the children and you.

I really hope this link works and this post allowed, a search on turn 2 us based on a charity in a county close by (don't know where you are in country but it will give you an idea the help that could be available)
http://grants-search.turn2us.org.uk/grant/lenderhand-16814?iframe=False
so there is something out there and so you do not have to be trapped.

(When posting on here becomes pointless I hope if genuine you'll do a similar search once you do something 'snap of the moment', it can be liberating I promise)
Nobody need make you feel inferior, unless you allow them too, before there is another Mandy Jordash from brookside all them years ago so I'll stop. x

suki1964

Hook line and sinker

KRB2725

Why do you fear Social Services being involved?

lulu_92

emmatthews wrote: »

Why do you fear Social Services being involved?

This.

Believe it or not SS aren't there to just take kids off people, they are there to (try to) ensure children are safe. Them getting involved is in your best interests.

meer53

I have repeatedly said the debt is bad, I have refused to argue in front of the kids and when he starts I leave, I have acknowledged my wrongdoing but yes he is worse as he is the one making comments to the children and in front of them. The things he does (controlling cctv) are witnessed by the children as when I tried to use it they could see the password had been changed (eldest can read) things like that...

But YOU are allowing your children to be in the middle of this by not taking any action !!!!!! Remove yourself and your children from this awful situation as soon as possible.

Stop worrying about whether you can "fix things" if it's fixable it will happen, if it's not then suck it up and move on. It's not rocket science fgs.

hollydays

Op.
I know what you are going through is very painful.
I know it must be hard reading this thread.
I suspect you are feeling so bad because you are felling out of control?

Take control now and be the adult your children deserve.
If you are feeling scared ( and I can tell you are) just think how terrified you two are making your children feel.

It's over. The words are futile.
I think you need to get some counselling . I agree with others about the passive aggressive behaviour you have shown.