How do i get it through to him??

Uniscots97

Good luck Sammy. You deserve to be happy.

astonsmummy

Good luck hun, and remember, you aint alone xx

Rachie_B

oh sammy
I am sorry it's come to this,but to be fair he has had more than enough chances!
he is very selfish and i hope he realises what he has lost

it sounds like you have some good friends / family helping you out

Good luck and lots of love
xxx

perfectlypoor

Hi Sammy, hope things are going ok for you.x

sammy_kaye18

UPDATE

Me and boyfriend have had down adn had serious words - it started Tuesday night and finished yesterday morning basically - which ok doesnt sound very long but we got alot out in the open and it has finally hit home to him that what he did was wrong - he didnt go to his course on thursday, its his last week next week too.

I have set down the rules (i put my foot down) and told him that this really is his last chance. If he does anything like this again with the lying etc then me and his son are gone for good. I spoke to a landlord on tuesday adn she literally offered me a hosue there and then which i could be in now if i had taken it but he asked to talk and for the sake fo our son i decided to hear him out but the houses information was already on its way to me. It arrived thursday morning and i think it really shocked him into seeing how serious i was that i would be leaving with our son adn muttley in tow.

Like mentioned on another thread today is his birthday and we have had a nice day at home, his idea so we have all been snuggled in a blanket on the sofa watching 'cars' with little one and as a birthday treat i said id cook him dinner which i will get round to in a bit, like i said we have talked alot more about what has been going on, why he did it etc and have talked through alot of issues that i think we both had and to be honest now we seem alot closer, not just int eh gf/bf sense but as a family - he seems to be spending more time with us, playing and enjoying time with our son, making more of an effort to do things together etc.

So everything is fine here for now, hes even suggested the two of us having a holiday to get some us time together which we havent really had since having little one 4 years ago, little one wants to go with his grandma to her caravan so we will nip off for a day or two. Hes also said hes not doing part two of the course as it needs too much time dedicated to it which he doesnt have.

BallandChain

It's a shame you didn't take the house you were offered as you don't often get that chance. You could have taken it and b/f could have carried on living in the home you are currently in. Even if you hadn't decided to split for good and you had moved out, he would have to do his own cooking, cleaning and learn to be responsible. It sounds as if you do too much for him. You would have had the security of your own place and if the relationship went pear shaped you would already be settled. Something tells me it won't be long before he starts messing up again. How many chances is this now? Does your b/f work? I only ask as you say he doesn't have time to do part 2 of the course.

I wish you well and hope for all your sakes he starts to behave himself.

princesstippytoes

I hope it works out for you this time sammy. xxx

searching_me

sorry sammy i agree with ballandchain... i mean i know its hardand believe me i have a dd with my oh so i can understand wanting to work it out for the sake of your child... but honestly can you trust him again... if it was a one off then maybe yer... but 8-9months of lies and hiding things from you even if its just a college friend he didnt put you first... i hope for your sake it works out but if i was you i would only be thinking of my child and me xxx

virgin_moneysaver

he's acting like a child so treat him like one - & the main thing to learn with children is that if you threaten a consequence then you must go thru with it or they'll lose all respect for you - I don't know how many times you've said 'this is your last chance' but mean it this time or you'll look back in years to come & regret it - my M-i-L finally got shot of my F-i-L after 27 years of marriage & bitterly regrets not doing it sooner when she was younger for it to not impact on her life so much

all the best Sammy - I hope it works out for you x

miserly_mum

How many times does someone ask for help/advice and then totally ignore it before everyone gets a bit fed up with it.

You go for it Sammy-Kaye, let him talk you round yet again, but the next time he lets you down (and he will) don't be expecting quite as much sympathy .....or the next.......or the next.......or........well need I go on