Can men and women be friends?

piglet74

catmiaow wrote: »

We were talking about this yesterday and he agreed we were friends.

Agree! Totally immature, just like your earlier thread, bests friends new friend, get out of the playground!

I dont even hear my 17 year old daughter going on as daft as that,

piglet74

Loz01 wrote: »

So anyone under the age of 50 (or whenever sex diminishes...) has to get rid of all their opposite gender friends if they are in a relationship??? Good lord.

Glad Im not in a r'ship with some of the people on this thread!! I am female, I have male friends that I have zero attraction to, zero sexual attraction to and I have no interest at all in being with them in any sort of way other than being friends. They feel the same about me. Its called being a grown up.

The problem is, op is attracted to the male in question, and wants to spend alone time with him, watching DVDs on her sofa, when her husband is out of sight, and most likely out of mind!

cells

in my experience no men and women can not be long term friends outside of relatives/in-laws and in some cases 'next door' neighbors. there is always the outlier but in general it doesn't happen.

Often one or the other will be interested and they will be friends for a time until the interested party wakes up and sees there is no possibility or until the two get together. Charles and camellia would be an example

singingtheblues_2

Of course men and women can be friends. The problem only arises when one or both want something more than friendship.

Pollycat

Loz01 wrote: »

Glad Im not in a r'ship with some of the people on this thread!! I am female, I have male friends that I have zero attraction to, zero sexual attraction to and I have no interest at all in being with them in any sort of way other than being friends. They feel the same about me. Its called being a grown up.

As pointed out below, the OP is attracted to this man:

piglet74 wrote: »

The problem is, op is attracted to the male in question, and wants to spend alone time with him, watching DVDs on her sofa, when her husband is out of sight, and most likely out of mind!

catmiaow wrote: »

I met a guy at work who I find attractive (he doesn't know this) and we have sort of started a friendship, but i am a bit worried about continuing as I don't want things to get awkward at work.

Like you Loz1, I have male friends with no attraction on either side to get in the way of the friendship.

Loz01

piglet74 wrote: »

The problem is, op is attracted to the male in question, and wants to spend alone time with him, watching DVDs on her sofa, when her husband is out of sight, and most likely out of mind!

Pollycat wrote: »

As pointed out below, the OP is attracted to this man:

Like you Loz1, I have male friends with no attraction on either side to get in the way of the friendship.

I understand the OP's predicament, I was just steaming in with my opinion :rotfl: obviously the OP is attracted to her friend, but in GENERAL I just mean that men and women can be friends. Obviously she wants more so she's asking a loaded question.

catmiaow

Loz01 wrote: »

I understand the OP's predicament, I was just steaming in with my opinion :rotfl: obviously the OP is attracted to her friend, but in GENERAL I just mean that men and women can be friends. Obviously she wants more so she's asking a loaded question.

I don't want more, just friends.

catmiaow

piglet74 wrote: »

Agree! Totally immature, just like your earlier thread, bests friends new friend, get out of the playground!

I dont even hear my 17 year old daughter going on as daft as that,

Rubbish, I am not daft. Besides the fact my friend's new friend is a total noddy. I am looking for advice, not insults. Coming on here and throwing insults around is the most immature thing to do. You get a lot of that on here. :mad:

LilElvis

Methinks the lady doth protest too much .......

piglet74

catmiaow wrote: »

Rubbish, I am not daft. Besides the fact my friend's new friend is a total noddy. I am looking for advice, not insults. Coming on here and throwing insults around is the most immature thing to do. You get a lot of that on here. :mad:

Your looking advice... Ok then, dont meet up with this new friend alone, stop chatting to him about " are we friends", dont invite him to your home for DVD nights,