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  • TheSicilian
    TheSicilian Posts: 15 Forumite
    But if there's an attraction, and you want to be alone...

    We all have self control, but I think it's potentially jeopardizing to your relationship putting yourself in any situation.

    Even if nothing happens, if my partner decided she wanted me out of the house to spend time with a man who she fancied I'd never allow it, and if I did I'd be constantly wondering why I couldn't be there, afterall being married you generally have a similar circle of friends. Even if your interests differ, it sounds fishy to me.
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,798 Forumite
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    The OP continues to trot out the same thing - despite asking for advice - which she clearly has no intention of taking as it doesn't agree with what she wishes to do:
    catmiaow wrote: »
    I don't see how the attraction part makes a difference,because I have self control.

    I think we may as well leave her to get her husband out of the house so she can exercise her 'self control'.
  • TheSicilian
    TheSicilian Posts: 15 Forumite
    It may lead to an interesting time on Jeremy Kyle, so do it!
  • JimmyTheWig
    JimmyTheWig Posts: 12,199 Forumite
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    piglet74 wrote: »
    Are you honestly going to say to your husband, "sweetie, there's a guy at work who I find really attractive, do you mind if I go to the cinema with him on Saturday night"...
    catmiaow wrote: »
    No it would be going to cinema with a guy from work
    And that would be the first lie. He's not "a guy from work". He's "the guy from work who you find attractive".
    While technically your whole sentance is true, missing out something relevant is, in effect, lying.
  • System
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    And that would be the first lie. He's not "a guy from work". He's "the guy from work who you find attractive".
    While technically your whole sentance is true, missing out something relevant is, in effect, lying.

    Yes, maybe its called it lying by omission.
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  • catmiaow
    catmiaow Posts: 5,954 Forumite
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    Not lying as I told my husband I find him attractive.
    No you're not a vegetarian if you eat any animal or fish, so do not insult genuine veggies by calling yourself one! :mad:

    Thanks to everyone who posts competitions. You are the stars of the board :T:j:T
  • catmiaow
    catmiaow Posts: 5,954 Forumite
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    I can be alone with him and exercise self control.
    No you're not a vegetarian if you eat any animal or fish, so do not insult genuine veggies by calling yourself one! :mad:

    Thanks to everyone who posts competitions. You are the stars of the board :T:j:T
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,798 Forumite
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    catmiaow wrote: »
    I can be alone with him and exercise self control.

    You seem incredibly sure about your level of self control.:whistle:
  • catmiaow
    catmiaow Posts: 5,954 Forumite
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    Pollycat wrote: »
    You seem incredibly sure about your level of self control.:whistle:

    Why wouldn't I be?
    No you're not a vegetarian if you eat any animal or fish, so do not insult genuine veggies by calling yourself one! :mad:

    Thanks to everyone who posts competitions. You are the stars of the board :T:j:T
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,798 Forumite
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    catmiaow wrote: »
    Why wouldn't I be?
    It's very easy to say 'I have self-control' when you're sat in front of a screen posting to random strangers on t'internet.

    I suspect it's probably a totally different kettle of fish when you're sat on the sofa - having ejected husband from the house - and are watching a dvd with someone you are attracted to.

    But good luck with whatever you decide to do - and with dealing with any fall-out afterwards.
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