Can men and women be friends?

Bogof_Babe

Pollycat wrote: »

It's very easy to say 'I have self-control' when you're sat in front of a screen posting to random strangers on t'internet.

I suspect it's probably a totally different kettle of fish when you're sat on the sofa - having ejected husband from the house - and are watching a dvd with someone you are attracted to.

But good luck with whatever you decide to do - and with dealing with any fall-out afterwards.

Especially if the DVD is a bit romantic!

System

Men and women who are happily attached can be friends without courting

Pollycat

MatthewAinsworth wrote: »

Men and women who are happily attached can be friends without courting

Does that still apply when one of the 'happily attached' people have an admitted attraction to a 3rd party?

'courting'.
What a quaint term. I've not heard that for years.

Bogof_Babe

MatthewAinsworth wrote: »

Men and women who are happily attached can be friends without courting

Even when one party specifically wants to be alone with the "friend"?

LilElvis

"Friends with benefits" springs to mind

catmiaow

Pollycat wrote: »

It's very easy to say 'I have self-control' when you're sat in front of a screen posting to random strangers on t'internet.

I suspect it's probably a totally different kettle of fish when you're sat on the sofa - having ejected husband from the house - and are watching a dvd with someone you are attracted to.

But good luck with whatever you decide to do - and with dealing with any fall-out afterwards.

It is not like that I don't like it with any of my friends as you dont get quality time.

groovy_chick

Yawn....

Could we not just fast forward to the part where the OP admits to cuddling up on the sofa with her new best 'friend' and losing her self control?

We all know that's what's going to happen.

SandC

I am starting to think guy at work friend would think it was decidedly weird if you were to invite him round to watch a DVD and politely decline anyway. What with him being a friend and all, he would probably be able to see the line that you are trying to cross and keep you at arms length.....

Pollycat

catmiaow wrote: »

It is not like that I don't like it with any of my friends as you dont get quality time.

Do you live in a bedsit?

I can't grasp your requirement for your husband to not be in the house when you have friends over to satisfy your need for 'quality time' with them.

JimmyTheWig

catmiaow wrote: »

I can be alone with him and exercise self control.

But why put yourself in that position when you need to exercise self control the whole time?
Why not spend your time with either your husband or friends who you don't find attractive?