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duchy

Toomuchdebt wrote: »

The cars are both on my driveway and neither are driveable. He says the police can't do anything because they're not on the road and that he can sleep where he likes.

Who owns the property ?
If not him and if renting if his name is not on the tenancy agreement then he has no right to do so.

What is the property situation ?

Toomuchdebt

I rent it through an agency. He's not on the tenancy and has never lived here. I moved here in March 2015.

mum2one

Thats good that the tenancy is in your name only, not only does it mean your holding the cards, but it shows you have the strength to put u and ur children first.

As for parking - then when you speak to police you need to say his cars are causing an obstruction - / he sleeps it in / not roadworthy.....

xx

springdreams

Your drive is private property. He is trespassing. He has no right to park his cars on private property without the permission of the resident.

It would be the same as him parking on my drive and saying he can do that and the police can do nothing - absolute rubbish!

There is more risk of social services taking your children if you don't report him to the police than if you do. By not reporting him to the police you are exposing your children to his abuse. Social services would not look too kindly on that.

duchy

Toomuchdebt wrote: »

I rent it through an agency. He's not on the tenancy and has never lived here. I moved here in March 2015.

So if I or some other random stranger parked their car on your drive and slept in the car there -pausing now and again to hammer on your door to abuse you.....what would you do ?

Toomuchdebt

But that's different because you or someone else would be a stranger.

Homeownertobe

Toomuchdebt wrote: »

But that's different because you or someone else would be a stranger.

As it stands, you are allowing your children to grow up in an abusive environment and doing nothing to stop it.

It is in your power to get rid of this man from your property.

Social services are already involved, so either you need to make the decision to protect your children, or they will.

Pollycat

Toomuchdebt wrote: »

But that's different because you or someone else would be a stranger.

No, it's not different.

You - and only you - are renting the house.
You have no relationship with this man.
He has no right to park on the drive of the house you are renting.
Not acting to stop him doing this may have a negative impact on your children.
They are your priority.

selloptape

How are you feeling today? Hope you managed to get some sleep and that you had no more trouble from your ex?

Please do call the police, you owe him nothing and there is no need to feel guilty.

The below might help with the vehicles, says first point of call to try and get them removed should be your local police -

https://www.askthe.police.uk/content/Q441.htm

nimbo

I hope you're doing ok.

I know it's scary but this is abuse. There are many organisations that may be able to support you - Google for support for people suffering from domestic abuse. Different places will offer different things. Our local organisations offer one to one counselling for people as well as group sessions looking at confidence and self esteem and run a course for perpetrators of dv / da to help them recognise the issues. It doesn't sound as if your ex is yet in the right place to be considering it. But they may be able to offer you a listening ear?

I also know it's horrid but if he annoys a neighbour to the point where they call the police social services will still find out - you might as well call yourself - you need to protect your children and yourself form this. You shouldn't be locked in your own house and hiding form someone - and your children shouldn't have to see mum scared of dad. And dad acting like a deranged drunk person.

I can't find the dodgy looking group hug icon - so big hugs. ��