Why are some people really tight with their money?

FBaby

Doesn't mean people aren't good friends if they don't mention it before hand, because it's NO BIG DEAL, it's another form of tender and it would be making it an issue where there isn't one.

It is no big deal to some people, it is a big deal to others and good friends take into consideration how their actions affect the people they care fo. If I'd upset my friend unwillingly because I assumed they would react the way I do, then my first move would be to apologise to them for doing so, not go on complaining about their reaction just because it is different to what mine would have been.

The reality is that if my friend acted that way, I wouldn't have found it a big deal and I would have said nothing about it but I would have found their actions inconsiderate and depending on the strength of our relationship in the first place, could have meant that I just didn't go along with their 'deals' in the future, or deciding that I'd rather just remain acquaintances rather than friends.

Feral_Moon

You have such a vivid imagination Fbaby, just love the way you embellish the facts in such an incredible way to support your theory :rotfl:

As for thinking that was an expensive restaurant, far from it compared to the type of places I usually prefer to eat when actually paying for it. As I've mentioned several times now, it was a run of the mill chain restaurant (think Ask, Bella Italia, Cafe Rouge etc) all of which sell over priced mediocre food which I wouldn't dream of dining in without using vouchers to cover as much of the food bill as possible.

And, for the final time, my friend knew beforehand that I was using Tesco vouchers to pay for our food. And yes, it was agreed she would then pick up the rest of the bill and that I, as designated driver, would not be having more than one glass of wine and a coffee. She likes a drink or two so it's not unusual for her to polish off a bottle of wine over lunch.

When the bill arrived she was rather drunk and for whatever reason suddenly decided that she'd got the raw end of the deal by paying cash, hence refusal to pay the gratuity tip. If anyone was annoyed it was me, not her. She later apologised to me. We are still friends. End of story.

Georgiegirl256

FBaby wrote: »

It is no big deal to some people, it is a big deal to others and good friends take into consideration how their actions affect the people they care fo. If I'd upset my friend unwillingly because I assumed they would react the way I do, then my first move would be to apologise to them for doing so, not go on complaining about their reaction just because it is different to what mine would have been.

The reality is that if my friend acted that way, I wouldn't have found it a big deal and I would have said nothing about it but I would have found their actions inconsiderate and depending on the strength of our relationship in the first place, could have meant that I just didn't go along with their 'deals' in the future, or deciding that I'd rather just remain acquaintances rather than friends.

Of course, if I upset any friend unintentionally, then I too would apologise. But, I would start to wonder what type of friend they were if they could kick up a fuss over something so innocent as a friend treating then to a meal. A "deal" where they got the better end of the bargain. A "deal" where I had used my clubcard vouchers on them when I could have used them on my shopping, a day out or a magazine subscription (what I usually use them for).

I'd like to think that myself and my friends aren't that petty and would understand and would accept it in the good grace that it was intended.

If you would lose a friendship over something that was intended as a good deed, then all I can say is what on earth do you do when you've really got something to get angry about/worry about?

Feral_Moon wrote: »

When the bill arrived she was rather drunk and for whatever reason suddenly decided that she'd got the raw end of the deal by paying cash, hence refusal to pay the gratuity tip. If anyone was annoyed it was me, not her. She later apologised to me. We are still friends. End of story.

I'm glad you're still friends FM, and that she apologised to you. I think her behaviour was shocking tbh.

FBaby

Feral_Moon wrote: »

You have such a vivid imagination Fbaby, just love the way you embellish the facts in such an incredible way to support your theory :rotfl:

As for thinking that was an expensive restaurant, far from it compared to the type of places I usually prefer to eat when actually paying for it. As I've mentioned several times now, it was a run of the mill chain restaurant (think Ask, Bella Italia, Cafe Rouge etc) all of which sell over priced mediocre food which I wouldn't dream of dining in without using vouchers to cover as much of the food bill as possible.

And, for the final time, my friend knew beforehand that I was using Tesco vouchers to pay for our food. And yes, it was agreed she would then pick up the rest of the bill and that I, as designated driver, would not be having more than one glass of wine and a coffee. She likes a drink or two so it's not unusual for her to polish off a bottle of wine over lunch.

When the bill arrived she was rather drunk and for whatever reason suddenly decided that she'd got the raw end of the deal by paying cash, hence refusal to pay the gratuity tip. If anyone was annoyed it was me, not her. She later apologised to me. We are still friends. End of story.

Oh I see my apologies for embillishing the story! So she knew what to expect when it was time to pay but then got drunk and that's why she was upset... so how is this in any way related to the discussion of this thread? Surely it becomes a discussion about how drunkeness impacts on people's perception rather than how people deal with money. Pity you avoided to mention this from the start would certainly have saved me letting my imagination wild!

Lakeuk

Great thread but can we get back on topic, coupon gate been discussed to death it's not a big deal

Georgiegirl256

Lakeuk wrote: »

Great thread but can we get back on topic, coupon gate been discussed to death it's not a big deal

You're right of course, it's just infuriating when people embellish and twist the story into something it's not, whereas most people just deal with the facts as they are given.

Ok, to get it back on track, I've just done the quiz on the first page, and apparently I'm only 32% tight and could do with tightening the purse strings!

FBaby

You're right of course, it's just infuriating when people embellish and twist the story into something it's not, whereas most people just deal with the facts as they are given.

Just as it is annoying when people come up with more stuff as they go along to justify their position when posters don't agree with them.

But at least we all agree on one thing, yes, the thread did derail! Did the test and got 8% tight. Saying that...there was a question about vouchers...ok, not going back there

The question did remind me of a first date I went on though! The guy came across as pleasant and well-mannered so couldn't believe it when we got to pay, and to save the usual embarrassment, I said I would pay my half. I paid cash and he paid with his card. As there was something like £2 left from my change, I put it in the plate, assuming that I would look to add a coin or two for the top... so became speechless when not only he didn't put anything in, but he picked up the change I'd left saying there was no point in wasting it. I couldn't believe it! Amazingly, I somehow agreed to go on a second date, and as things were more relaxed, I did bring it up and he admitted that he was aware that he was extremely tight, was actually embarrassed by it, but had been raised this way and it was a hard habit to break. There were no 3rd date though!

Georgiegirl256

FBaby wrote: »

But at least we all agree on one thing, yes, the thread did derail! Did the test and got 8% tight. Saying that...there was a question about vouchers...ok, not going back there
!

You mean the 2 for 1 voucher on a first date? Ah, well that's a whole different scenero! Totally different from the one mentioned. But like you say, let's not go there as it'll derail the thread for another few pages lol!

Ilona

According to the quiz I am 54% tight, but that is not accurate because I can't answer some of the questions.

I don't drink tea so I can't re use tea bags.
I don't go to work so I have to charge my mobile at home.
I don't eat out at restaurants, cheaper to eat at home.
I don't split the bill because I don't eat out.
I always buy own brand Value and proud of it. I live alone and don't need to fool anyone.
I would never buy a CD, DVD, or computer game for anyone. I give home made presents.
I don't go to the pub, never mind get in rounds. I have a glass of cider at home.
I wouldn't go to a restaurant, even with a 2 for 1 voucher.
I don't have any kids. If I did, I wouldn't lie to them, I would just tell them we can't afford it.
I don't buy diaries any more, I buy a £1 calendar and write in every square, so it would be no good to use it again.

So with those answers I think I am more tight than 54%

Ilona

Oh, and I have reported the two posts above as spam.

Spam gone

FBaby

Talk about changing subjects, millersage has certainly taking literally!