Wedding invite dilemma

staple28

FBaby wrote: »

It sounds very much like it was his decision too but much easier to pretend it was hers only when confronted with having to let close people down! My OH is very good too at blaming me for turning down invits (as in I don't feel well etc...) when he doesn't want to go either!

Got to agree with this. Why are you so angry at her, have you thought he may not want to admit to his best friend that he has agreed with his wife to be that they wont be having kids at their wedding. Much easier to blame her when shes not there!

Just curious, how can you be best friends with someone and not have met their wife to be? Some people would be lucky to be invited to a wedding of someone theyve never met!

Mojisola

As the invite is from OH's best friend, it should be him who sends the reply.

If pigpen sends a snotty reply, her OH may find it loses him a friend. The wife-to-be obviously doesn't want to become friends with pigpen and partner - give her a reason and she may ask her new husband to drop the friendship.

pigpen

Mojisola wrote: »

As the invite is from OH's best friend, it should be him who sends the reply.

If pigpen sends a snotty reply, her OH may find it loses him a friend. The wife-to-be obviously doesn't want to become friends with pigpen and partner - give her a reason and she may ask her new husband to drop the friendship.

And piggers wouldn't actually give a hoot.. having not met this woman before she couldnt care less.

haha


Actually.. OH has been dropped by his group of friends not because I'm a b!tch (even though I am happy to be labelled as such) but because they don't want his sister around their children.. most of them kind of like me.

Person_one

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

Not impressed by the groom dumping all of the blame on the bride here.

:rotfl:

Yeah, he completely threw her under the bus there, didn't he?

Mojisola

pigpen wrote: »

And piggers wouldn't actually give a hoot.. having not met this woman before she couldnt care less.

Actually.. OH has been dropped by his group of friends not because I'm a b!tch (even though I am happy to be labelled as such) but because they don't want his sister around their children.. most of them kind of like me.

And you don't care enough about him to help him keep his best friend?

pigpen

Mojisola wrote: »

And you don't care enough about him to help him keep his best friend?

I don't care about his best friend.. that relationship is not mine to maintain.. but it is his best friends mother whose wedding we are refusing to take the girls to in May.. OH is going with his dad but I'm staying home with the girls.

We were initially invited to the service and afternoon reception which I would gladly have taken them to just not the evening do with drinking to excess, after bed time and at least without us there OH can have a drink and enjoy himself rather than worrying about where the girls have disappeared to this time!

mark5

We had one child in our wedding, my wife's 6 year old niece out of about 110 day guests, if we had invited one child we would have had to invite loads, and a lot of friends who did come would have not been able to due to cost.

Every wedding I have been to seems to adopt the no child rule apart from the occasional flower girl and even they seem to disappear before the food, when I was best man in my mates wedding ( best friends since aged 3) it didn't even occur to me that he might invite my children.

Dill

I've never been to a wedding where children were unwelcome, but I do recall my little nephews and niece falling asleep during the evening at the (very loud) disco! We had to put chairs together so that the children could lie down and try and sleep, they were so tired from the long day.


As an aside I'd say it doesn't bode well that one of the couple wants one thing and the other wants the opposite, and rather than compromise it's 'my way or the highway' kind of thing.

burlington6

Once again people get annoyed when their precious little darlings aren't invited to something.

Get over it. They aren't the centre of attention to the bride and groom and it's their choice.

Treat it as a night off from being a parent and have some fun.

Jagraf

During my wedding photos my sister in law (ex) thought it appropriate that her toddler daughter (my neice) run around with my bouquet, pulling off the petals. She thought this so funny that she even took her own snapshots.

I don't know why parents want to take little ones - they are either left to run around wild or if looked after properly it usually means they miss the service trying to keep the children quiet.