Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

onomatopoeia99

codemonkey wrote: »

Got a meeting with my manager later so will raise my concerns then, hopefully without turning into a crying girl.

Don't forget that not so long ago you went out wearing a purple Ursula dress, so are officially awesome. Therefore you will be fine.

tea_lover

Very good point ono. Also remember that having a cry in a meeting is very much not the end of the world (although I appreciate it can feel like it at the time!)

Pyxis

Code.....

codemonkey wrote: »

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* restructuring means work isnt what I was told and not really what I like doing

This seems to be the key point out of all of them.

I would say a very serious talk with your superior about this point is the main route to follow at the moment.

If that key point were solved, I feel you could cope with everything else.

tea_lover

Would going to work in the Ursula outfit help?

calleyw

tea_lover wrote: »

Would going to work in the Ursula outfit help?

Tea that sounds like a cool idea.

Yesterday nipped out to the supermarket and action man drove. I told him that he could stay in the car. He has his animal from the muppets lounge pants on :rotfl:

He was like but someone might see. You are walking less than half a dozen steps to the car and not getting out the car :rotfl:

In the past when husband use to play darts and I had to pick him up at 11pm I would go out in my satin dressing gown :eek:

right off to make some food for me and action man.

Yours

Calley X

whitewing

calley, sounds so domesticated!

code, grin and bare it until Xmas. If they can't loosen up then, then you can search again in the new year.

WaS, miss you.

ER has been moved to hospital. Possibly had another stroke.

mattress66

June is the anniversary of our first two-year-old thread, and I always thought we should have a party or a thing!

Pyxis

Hello Mattress!

Yes, last June was the two-year anniversary of WaS's first thread!

I am a bit confused though!
Ok, ok, I know that's not a hard thing for me to be! :rotfl:
Is November too late to have a party for an anniversary last June?

(Have you been a hummingbird all that time? Do you need help with anything?:A
We have a lovely comfy fort, with cake and dogs! )






As for me, I seem to be irritating someone at AmDram. I have a role, and in carrying out that role, which is actually just helping some of the group to improve and hone our skills, I seem to be rubbing her up the wrong way.
For some time, she's been going all passive aggressive on me and refusing to take part in the exercises I've been arranging.

I only ever want to be nice to people and to be helpful, and I've tried very hard not to come across in the role as authoritative or bossy. We all need practice, though, me included, as I've said as much.
I don't know how to handle it. She's older than me and has been in the group an awful lot longer than me, and a long time ago used to have the role I now have, though she gave it up before my time, so it's not like I've usurped her or anything.
Maybe she feels she knows it all and doesn't need practice, but the thing is she does! She makes mistakes, like we all do!

I continuously say to my group that they must let me know if they want anything in particular worked on, or if they have any particular problems, but they hardly ever do, so it's down to me to decide what to practice.

I don't know how to handle this, because I don't know what the problem is, and anyway, I will cross oceans, volcanoes and piraña pits to avoid confrontation, as you know.

I have offered to arrange things to make practices very easy for her, but she has now effectively said 'no, I don't want to', without actually saying that, IYSWIM. She has made the occasional scathing comment about techniques for improvement that I have suggested, and this attitude has been noticed by someone else, so it's not just me being overly sensitive.

The part of the group that I am 'responsible' for is depleted in numbers at the moment, so it is even more important that we try hard to get it right, otherwise it affects the performance of the whole group. If she did it correctly all the time, I wouldn't be so concerned, but she doesn't; none of us do, so I'm not picking on her. We just all need to go over stuff, even if we've done it a lot before.

I've tried so hard to be diplomatic and friendly and accommodating, but this latest snub was so blatant, I am at loss to know how to deal with it. I can't just leave her out!

Help!

Izadora

Sorry Pyxis, that sounds like an awful situation and I have no idea how to deal with it. I think I'd probably end up carrying on treating her the same as everyone else and hoping that she'd snap out of it because asking her outright what the problem is would be beyond me.
Do you have any mutual friends you could speak to about it who might have an idea what's the matter with her?

Pyxis

Izadora wrote: »

Sorry Pyxis, that sounds like an awful situation and I have no idea how to deal with it. I think I'd probably end up carrying on treating her the same as everyone else and hoping that she'd snap out of it because asking her outright what the problem is would be beyond me.
Do you have any mutual friends you could speak to about it who might have an idea what's the matter with her?

Well, I did have a quick word with another person who has also been in the group a lot longer than me, and although they had noticed the 'attitude', couldn't explain it. They don't think it's to do with personal circumstances.
It sounds like she's taken umbrage with me about something. Dunno what, though.

I don't know whether to ask her outright or just to keep offering her the same help as everyone else and leave it at that.
It does upset me though!


I want to live on an island! :rotfl:


(If I ever win Euromillions mega jackpot, I will buy a large archipelago somewhere and we can each have our own island for when humans become all too much! )