Deal Breakers in relationships

Gloomendoom

onlyroz wrote: »

When it comes to religion, I don't see how two people with opposing views on life, death and the afterlife could possibly make each other happy. This is why it's a "deal-breaker" for a lot of people. It's nothing to do with religion-bashing.

Why not? You just agree to disagree and get on with life.

There is no need to ram personal beliefs down each other's throats 24 hours a day.

Gloomendoom

benjus wrote: »

Anyway, I'm married so this is all academic...

Is it?

I'm married too but my wife doesn't possess any of the deal breaker qualities that I listed.

If she did, it would have been a deal breaker and I wouldn't have pursued our relationship.

pigpen

consumers_revenge wrote: »

My point pigpen is I'll cook what I want, you cook what you want. I don't want to eat what your having so I learn to cook myself.

Eat what I eat or starve? Lol. If I cook you sheeps testicles and eyes would you eat it or starve?

Choice makes the world go round :-)

I would be cooking food for myself anyway so I wouldn't care.. given the option and no alternative I would starve.. we went to OH's aunts last easter and she got a curry knowing I wouldnt eat it and I ate absolutely nothing the time we were there.. persnally had my guest gone away hungry I'd have been mortified.

Out,_Vile_Jelly wrote: »

I think his being vegetarian is irrelevant; the problem was you took over the role of female domestic servant from his mother. If chores are never fairly shared then of course resentment will build up.

My boyfriend finds "overgroomed" women who spend hours in the bathroom unattractive, which is handy for me.

It wasn't that.. it was the fact he lied about being 'vegetarian' for years.. when clearly it was a dislike of his mothers terrible cooking nothing to do with ethical or moral reasons.. lying to himself and lying to me.


its hard to share anything with someone who just refuses to help out.


religion is fine.. do as you please but dont try to force me to come along.. i do think it is important for children to experience religious practises so as an adult/older child they can make an informed choice about it for themselves.. not allowing them to experience religion claiming 'they can decide when they are older' is just rubbish.. very few will actually go experience religion as adults if they have no childhood curiosity.

PasturesNew

heuchera wrote: »

Thanks, but it looks like someone has reported it/me

LOL. There are some strange people about.

onlyroz

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Why not? You just agree to disagree and get on with life.

There is no need to ram personal beliefs down each other's throats 24 hours a day.

From the point of view of the religious person, how could they be happy living with somebody that they would not be able to share the afterlife with?


From the point of view of the non-religious person, how could they be happy living with somebody who is more concerned with pleasing a being they consider to be imaginary, than with focussing on the real-world things around them?

Oakdene

I do find it funny how a woman who sleeps or dates a younger man is seen as sexy yet roles reversed people think its weird...

Jagraf

onlyroz wrote: »

From the point of view of the religious person, how could they be happy living with somebody that they would not be able to share the afterlife with?


From the point of view of the non-religious person, how could they be happy living with somebody who is more concerned with pleasing a being they consider to be imaginary, than with focussing on the real-world things around them?

I'm just saying it does work, it depends on the two people involved, no more or less than anything else.

Im not sure what people can say - you can't love a religious partner - that's your choice but it doesn't mean others can't.

Torry_Quine

My one deal breaker would be if they weren't a Christian.

Jagraf

Torry_Quine wrote: »

My one deal breaker would be if they weren't a Christian.

Which just goes to show how different we can all be. My brother is married to a Hindu and they jog along perfectly yet her siblings would only marry another Hindu.

onomatopoeia99

Torry_Quine wrote: »

My one deal breaker would be if they weren't a Christian.

My post last night, which has been removed for a reason that hasn't been explained as it certainly was not an attack on religious people, went into some detail about why, while an atheist myself, I wouldn't rule out a person who had religious faith as a potential partner.

The deal breaker would be if they were evangelical about it and tried to convert me. I wouldn't dream of trying to convert them, or anyone else, to my own view as I know we all experience life differently and must come to our own viewpoint, so would expect the same in return.

"do as you would be done by" could sum it up, which as I recall from my Roman Catholic schooling many years ago is a paraphrased quote from the book of Matthew.