Deal Breakers in relationships

LilElvis

prosaver wrote: »

male
no trust
no fun
doent wear make up
lily white skin (must have a tan)
keeps fit
dislikes the thrill of danger
worries about the furture (not living for the moment)
over the top PC
dis likes spain or hot countries.
dislikes tidy houses
fussy about grammer
no scene of humour
dis-Likes to get drunk and fun

... or spelling

Amara

GlasweJen wrote: »

I'm female.

Couldn't deal with a smoker, gambler or anyone who is religious.

Why? What's wrong with being religious?

pigpen

consumers_revenge wrote: »

Laughing at all the vegetarian haters. I'm veggy, do most of the cooking for us both, told I'm pretty good and rarely see an empty plate. Never bothered any past girl friends.

If you want a burger or bacon butty most veggies wont ( or shouldn't ) stop you as that's your choice. I'm sure you know how to get to burger king, just bring me back large fries!

I spent 15 years pandering to my ex-husbands 'vegetarian' ways.. then out of the blue.. 'that pork smells nice' and scoffed the lot... my experience was that it was a 15 year lie because his mother lacked culinary skills and that is what he thought food tasted like.. I resented him for every single one of those days and i wouldnt do that to myself again... they eat what I cook or starve.. everyone.. if it wont kill you you are served it and you eat it or starve... dont come to my house for dinner lol.

consumers_revenge

My point pigpen is I'll cook what I want, you cook what you want. I don't want to eat what your having so I learn to cook myself.

Eat what I eat or starve? Lol. If I cook you sheeps testicles and eyes would you eat it or starve?

Choice makes the world go round :-)

LilElvis

Amara wrote: »

Why? What's wrong with being religious?

Because some people believe that God/ Mohammed/ Jehovah/ Buddha are no more real than Father Christmas. Others believe that the opposite is true. There's nothing wrong with "being religious", but it can be a major source of contention if a couple hold diametrically opposing beliefs or where only one believes in any form of higher being.

Petra_70

Ooooooh, interesting answers....... I notice that quite a few women don't want men shorter than them, and quite a few men don't want women who are fat.

Smokers are offputting and so is bad hygiene and beer bellies and even beards for some women. Not driving and not working are others. I think I would struggle with someone who couldn't drive too, as I would get tired of always being the chauffeur. A couple my hubby knows are constantly arguing and he is very resentful, because she doesn't drive, and he drives her everywhere! She works funny shifts, and he does an 18 mile round trip to get her AND to pick her up... 4 times a week! Sometimes at 8 or 9 at night.

Also not keen on hairy men, not sure it would be a deal breaker though.

As for politics, I would not want to be with anyone who was extreme on either side. They are both as bad as each other IMO.

Oh and people who are rude and intolerant of people's FAITH really get up my nose too. That would be a deal breaker if someone was that rude about peoples beliefs.

Petra_70

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

No need for rudeness. I'm an atheist but accept that we all experience the world differently, and respect that others believe different things to me, so don't find it necessary to try to belittle them.

I will not try to change anyone's mind, and expect that they will show me the same respect, so I would have no problem being in a relationship with a religious person, which is why I didn't mention it in my list. It's the evangelical people I can't deal with and wouldn't want a relationship with, whether they are evangelical about their faith or the absence of it.

Amara wrote: »

I find your post rude. I guess by "imaginary friend" you meant God. For many people God is real, it'd be nice if some people accepted that and stop arrogant and disrespectful comments. Religious people often have strong morals, that's very good thing in relationships.

I wouldn't pay any attention to the Christian bashers on here. There are a small handful, and they often use the tiniest opportunity to bash Christians, even when the thread is NOTHING to do with religion.

Funnily enough, the Christians never say anything negative about them, or the fact they are non-believers. Yet the non believers lay into the Christians at any available opportunity. As I said, even when the subject matter is nothing to do with religion.

Speaks volumes about the non believers really.

The amount of times these non believers go on about religion is really quite extraordinary though, considering they seemingly have no interest in religion!

Very interesting!

Amara

LilElvis wrote: »

Because some people believe that God/ Mohammed/ Jehovah/ Buddha are no more real than Father Christmas. Others believe that the opposite is true. There's nothing wrong with "being religious", but it can be a major source of contention if a couple hold diametrically opposing beliefs or where only one believes in any form of higher being.

Fair point, people shouldn't be together if they have totally opposite beliefs. That'd be deal breaker for me ,as well if someone would be disrespectful towards my beliefs , I can't be with them, I can't be friends with them.

mariposa687

My dealbreakers are:

Selfish
Someone who doesn't want kids
Drugs and or smoking
Stingy
Bad with money

Must have a good work ethic (my ex-didn't and it grated on me no end). You want something you go out and work hard,you don't expect someone to hand it you on a plate.

Anatidaephobia

I couldn't be with anyone who ticks the following boxes:

Right wing political views.
Racist/sexist/homophobic.
People who don't believe mental illness exists.
Closed minded or unwilling to consider/accept things in the world that they have no personal experience of.
Anti-travelling/dislike leaving the UK.
Smokers - maybe not a deal breaker if they were amazing in every other way but I would really struggle to be around someone who smells of smoke and was regularly smoking.

I don't care if someone is veggie/vegan or not; it wouldn't influence my opinion on whether or not we should be together.