Is it weird wanting to remain single?

Person_one

Deleted User wrote: »

At this moment you are a young man of 33 or 34? and enjoying life with dare I mention the odd hook up. One day when you are aged and possibly infirm you might well look back with regret eg you would have no one to look after for you and would have to go into care. We all get older the earth waits for no one but I hope you enjoy your young care free years.

I'm just going to con a young barman into giving me bed baths, I believe that's easier than you might expect!

LilElvis

Deleted User wrote: »

At this moment you are a young man of 33 or 34? and enjoying life with dare I mention the odd hook up. One day when you are aged and possibly infirm you might well look back with regret eg you would have no one to look after for you and would have to go into care. We all get older the earth waits for no one but I hope you enjoy your young care free years.

Is that why your (older) husband married you? A guaranteed nurse in his declining years. Who's going to look after you after he's gone? Or are you going to be on the lookout for toyboy "hubs #2" to be your carer?

Person_one

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Our age difference is 3 years not 30. And I have a daughter who will be 19 later this year. But I am not selfish enough to expect that she will be my carer when I age. She is going to uni this year to study medicine.

It was a 17 year age gap last time, keep your story straight!

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PasturesNew

It's weird wanting to remain single IF somebody perfect/right were to shuffle along ....

If you actually found somebody that was perfect/ideal/faultless etc etc and STILL wanted to be single, that'd be weird.

Of course, they don't actually exist .... so it's essential to have a cover story ready that it's by choice.

There are a lot of unsuitable people out there ... and it's not worth giving up being single for them.

Maybe 3D printing can print us perfect partners before too long.

Kim_kim

zagfles wrote: »

:rotfl:I'm the opposite, I'm married but love travelling alone. Seriously, if you like travel, consider it - stay in hostels rather than hotels, you can get private rooms it's not all dorms and many are hotel standard, but so much more friendly and loads of solo travellers to meet, chat with maybe travel around a bit with, go to dinner with etc. Loads of threads on the travel board if you're interested.

I'm not the hostel type :-)
I'm nearly 50, I think that's a much younger scene.

Anatidaephobia

I don't think it's weird at all and I can easily imagine feeling that way myself had my life worked out differently.

mgdavid

Deleted User wrote: »

My keys slipped I meant to say our age gap is 13 years. Thankfully im off tomorrow for a noon appointment its tiring having to explain myself to haters.

13 is not 17.
I'm calling Walt.

mgdavid

Kim_kim wrote: »

I'm not the hostel type :-)
I'm nearly 50, I think that's a much younger scene.

Eh? you'd better be very wrong, as these two retirees are planning on staying in a few hostels this time next year.

System

I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum as i'm one of those people that whilst can manage on their own, has never been 100% happy alone, for me i want someone to share my life with, in fact its pretty much the only consistent thing i've ever wanted in life, to love and be loved.

But i'd never judge anyone who opted to stay single. At the end of the day we all tick along in different ways. I suppose people assume its "weird" because we are hardwired to believe that we should be in a relationship. Honestly some people are happy single, and so they should be. Its not for me or anyone else to judge.

Savvy_Sue

heuchera wrote: »

Better to be unhappily single than unhappily married.. but is it better to be happily single than happily married?

Now THAT's a profound question!

I'd suggest that it's impossible to be happily married if you've never been happily single, and a lot of people don't 'get' that, setting their hearts on finding that perfect person who actually isn't really out there at all.

Anyway, I know quite a few single people who live perfectly contented lives, I'm sure in most cases it wasn't a conscious decision NOT to find a life partner, just it never happened and they've now reached a stage where they don't expect it will, and they're certainly not looking for it.

Having said that, I know a lady who married for the first time in her 60s!