Is it weird wanting to remain single?

Kim_kim

heuchera wrote: »

Better to be unhappily single than unhappily married.. but is it better to be happily single than happily married?

Probably not.
I've been married twice & had a (1 & a half year live in partner).
I'm clearly either not great at picking them or I'm not great at relationships.

I know I'm happier single than when things go wrong in a relationship.

It's a more even feeling, no highs, but no lows either.

On Christmas Eve I would like to go to bed with someone & wake up with them Christmas morning. I go to my family's mid morning.

Every now & then (not that often) I wish I had a partner, but not often enough to want to take the risk again.


HOLIDAYS - that's what I miss about a partner.

Kim_kim

Gloomendoom wrote: »

:huh: But who does all the cooking and cleaning?

I have a cleaner in once a week & I please myself with meals/food.

zagfles

Person_one wrote: »

^^This is something I've noticed a lot. Attempts to convince you to change your mind, or that you don't actually know your own mind.

Its as if because being coupled up is the default, people think you need a better reason than 'I don't want that' for not being. They think your single status needs to be justified and explained to their satisfaction!

Eh? The OP volunteered reasons why he wants to remain single, he wasn't asked to justify himself. I was pointing out why those reasons don't necessarily apply. Not that he doesn't know his own mind!!

It's like someone saying "I don't want to for an Indian because I don't like spicy food" and pointing out to them that plenty of Indian dishes aren't at all spicy.

zagfles

Kim_kim wrote: »

Probably not.
I've been married twice & had a (1 & a half year live in partner).
I'm clearly either not great at picking them or I'm not great at relationships.

I know I'm happier single than when things go wrong in a relationship.

It's a more even feeling, no highs, but no lows either.

On Christmas Eve I would like to go to bed with someone & wake up with them Christmas morning. I go to my family's mid morning.

Every now & then (not that often) I wish I had a partner, but not often enough to want to take the risk again.


HOLIDAYS - that's what I miss about a partner.

:rotfl:I'm the opposite, I'm married but love travelling alone. Seriously, if you like travel, consider it - stay in hostels rather than hotels, you can get private rooms it's not all dorms and many are hotel standard, but so much more friendly and loads of solo travellers to meet, chat with maybe travel around a bit with, go to dinner with etc. Loads of threads on the travel board if you're interested.

Torry_Quine

I totally agree that it's an individual choice and if you are happy then that's absolutely fine.

I must admit the people that I don't understand are those in couples who go on holiday alone.

zagfles

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I totally agree that it's an individual choice and if you are happy then that's absolutely fine.

I must admit the people that I don't understand are those in couples who go on holiday alone.

We go on holiday as a family as well, at least twice a year, but I do loads of trips alone on top of that. I work shifts which means I get regularly gets a good stretch of days off midweek termtime, ideal for cheap trips. My hobby, we're all weird in some way aren't we

goodwithsaving

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I must admit the people that I don't understand are those in couples who go on holiday alone.

I love going on holiday alone! Everyone needs some independence and a break. OH won't travel but I like to, so I go alone and have a proper rest from meetings. There's no 'lets go here at such and such time' - it's the only time in the year I don't have to answer to anyone.

Loz01

Of course its not weird! It'd be more bizarre to force yourself into a relationship with someone or have a child just because "thats what people do" - if you like being on your own, carry on doing it!

bluelass

At this moment you are a young man of 33 or 34? and enjoying life with dare I mention the odd hook up. One day when you are aged and possibly infirm you might well look back with regret eg you would have no one to look after for you and would have to go into care. We all get older the earth waits for no one but I hope you enjoy your young care free years.

tomtontom

bluelass wrote: »

At this moment you are a young man of 33 or 34? and enjoying life with dare I mention the odd hook up. One day when you are aged and possibly infirm you might well look back with regret eg you would have no one to look after for you and would have to go into care. We all get older the earth waits for no one but I hope you enjoy your young care free years.

Better to be alone than have some relative trying to run (ruin?) your life!