Is it weird wanting to remain single?

Popstess

I don't think it's weird in the slightest do what's right for you not what's expected by society. You sound content with your life the way it is good for you

mark5

Always shared a bed from day one with my wife with no problems, we both go to bed when we're ready it's just a standard double.

System

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Until I married I was in a single bed so no extra space though. He does tend to not the duvet but I just take it back from him.

I've found middle ground.... bf has the duvet...i have a super large fluffy blanket seems to work :rotfl:

It can be hard getting used to sharing space

We always go to bed at the same time,its just dependent on whoever has to get up first. Me i can sleep for england so i don;t mind when i go to bed, if bf has work he leaves me in bed and vice versa too.

Savvy_Sue

Petra_70 wrote: »

maybe even individual bedrooms.

We've always shared a bed but I do know others who only do so when they're away from home. I did wonder briefly about single beds when we first married, as his eczema meant he didn't sleep at all well and it disturbed me too, but we reached a compromise that when he started scratching I could hold his hands and stop him!

We sleep at different temperatures too - he gets very hot and I don't. But I've found a silk-filled duvet is comfortable for both of us.

MarcGlassford

Weird...Be a single is inhumanity, since life is a bundle of happiness and sadness, you have to enjoy it fully. The single and married both have its merits and demerits..

SingleSue

Petra_70 wrote: »

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I don't think there is anything wrong with being single, if it's what you want, and it makes you happy. But if you were living together, it wouldn't be anything like having an overnighter in a hotel. I never sit up waiting for my husband to go to sleep so I can go, and I don't have to 'tailor my bed time to his,' and I don't find myself 'unable to sit and read,' or with 'restricted space,' because we have more than one room in the house! I stay up and watch telly when he goes to bed (if I want to.)

Upshot is, if you lived with someone, it wouldn't be anything like it would be staying in a hotel room together. It would be totally different, as you would have your own space, and lots of different rooms; maybe even individual bedrooms.

Only just noticed this reply to my post.....

I have lived with someone, for over 20 years in fact! He got narky about going to bed at different times, narky if when I couldn't sleep ( a regular thing as an insomniac), I tried to read in bed or in another room and as for sleeping seperately, woah, that was a whole new reason to berate me.

For some reason, I appear to attract men who like to go to bed early, I am a late to bed person (why struggle to sleep for 10 hours, far easier to struggle for 6) and after a while, it does grate on partners.

I know I might be lucky and find someone who doesn't get annoyed at all the above (and ex hubby had been fine in the beginning, it was one of the things I warned him about when we started dating and he accepted it) but I just can't help how I feel after the experience I have had...I have discovered freedom.

Gloomendoom

Just go for a big bed and a lot of these problems go away. My wife and I operate at opposite ends of the day. She often goes to bed three hours before me, but then she will read for an hour or more. I go to bed to sleep.