Throwing out my 19 year old step son!

POPPYOSCAR

sdoherty1000 wrote: »

The other thread has no importance on this one, Things are strained at home due to this conversation here! The marriage is almost over by the way he treats everyone/thing and how she responds by enabling him.

My relationship with the others is unaffected, they are great kids but this one is having an effect on them as much as it is me! He should lead by example.

I have raised 3 of her children and then for them to turn round and treat me like I no longer, and in my own home is terrible, its depressing and wrong!

Of course it does.


According to your other thread, you want to divorce but your wife refuses and refuses to sell the house, and that you are not living as a couple.


This has been the situation for 2 years.


You seem to want someone to come along and tell you that legally you can throw him out of "your house" and there would be nothing your wife could do about it.


It is her house as well.

balletshoes

sdoherty1000 wrote: »

I have issues with her as much as him, she is partly to blame by enabling him into the person he has become. When I raise a concern or try and tell her what I am feeling she sides with him every time.
The main question really is, when I decide to tell him that I no longer want him here due to his actions can she do anything legally to stop it? Do I have rights as a co-owner to decide I want him gone- surely I have a right to say who can or cannot live in my house??

as a co-owner, you have no more rights than the other co-owner - so, as has already been said on this thread, yes, you could throw him out - and the other co-owner (his mother) can then let him straight back in again.

balletshoes

heuchera wrote: »

You give her an ultimatum - tell her you are no longer prepared to have him in the house, and if she is not happy with you evicting him she is free to go..

She might see things a bit differently if she realises that siding with the druggy waster could make her effectively homeless.

as I understand it, this lad's mum is the other co-owner of the house, along with the OP. So the OP can give her all the ultimatums he likes, she doesn't have to go anywhere - or stop her son from staying in her home either, if thats what she chooses to do.

heath480

He is 19,of course you can ask him to leave.Unacceptable that he contributes nothing towards the household bills.


Next time he comes home drunk,call the police and get him arrested.


Ridiculous advice being given here,nobody should have to live with this kind of behaviour.He needs to go.

PasturesNew

Caravan in the garden .... he can bring the potty in twice a day, but won't have his own house key.

POPPYOSCAR

heath480 wrote: »

He is 19,of course you can ask him to leave.Unacceptable that he contributes nothing towards the household bills.


Next time he comes home drunk,call the police and get him arrested.


Ridiculous advice being given here,nobody should have to live with this kind of behaviour.He needs to go.

He can ask him to leave all he likes.


How he can force him to without the backing of his wife is another matter altogether.


The police will not arrest someone drunk in their own home!

heuchera

Is the wife earning her own money and contributing financially? If she isn't then good luck to her and druggy son when he decides to change the locks while they're out.

heuchera

PasturesNew wrote: »

Caravan in the garden .... he can bring the potty in twice a day, but won't have his own house key.

This is most teens idea of heaven. Their own space, away from the parents and not having to pay a thing. He'll invite all his mates round to his caravan and cause even more trouble. Better he goes completely.

POPPYOSCAR

heuchera wrote: »

Is the wife earning her own money and contributing financially? If she isn't then good luck to her and druggy son when he decides to change the locks while they're out.

From memory they both earn the same I think and the mother claims the tax credit.(From the other thread)

PasturesNew

heuchera wrote: »

This is most teens idea of heaven. Their own space, away from the parents and not having to pay a thing. He'll invite all his mates round to his caravan and cause even more trouble. Better he goes completely.

He's close enough for mum not to moan .... and if he does that dad can hitch up the caravan and drag him 10 miles up the road