Husband's 10 year+ affair with other woman he met online, I'm worried now.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

A lot of freelance work going on here. Next time try to make your tale of woe a bit more believable.

Pollycat

suki1964 wrote: »

Who has the popcorn?

Me! :j Me! :j
Posted at 8:17 last night:

Pollycat wrote: »

Yep! Agree with the above.

Just popping out for some lightweight beige-y sweet stuff.....

Was on my phone so couldn't find the smiley....

Pollycat

silvemn32 wrote: »

Anyway, I thought our relationship was good; we've never had really serious arguments, only ones over things like best value for money of an item, best brand etc. - trivial things really, not infidelity cheating etc.

silvemn32 wrote: »

As for the anomalies, well, my husband has become very into online poker lately as well, so finances are a bit of an issue there, we argued a bit about it since November.

Money is the issue due to husband's gambling problems.

Quite surprising that the OP didn't mention her OH's penchant for online gambling in her first post.

thorsoak

....what do you mean? The OP didn't come back to explain???????

swingaloo

Im disappointed as well!

yvonne13_2

OP If what you have written is true why didn't you throw your husband out of the house?

If that was me he wouldn't have a chance of showing me any type of email from another woman, he would be picking up his clothes from the garden without carrier bags.

He could stay in a hotel on his part time wages for all I care. I wouldn't be letting him live in comfort until his lover comes over.

I'm hoping the other post you wrote was you trying not to think about this whole mess. I'm not going to call you a troll as many people do many things to get over shock.

Rain_Shadow

suki1964 wrote: »

Can I ask, seriously, why do members invest so much of their time and experience to threads like this?

I mean seriously , there are more holes in it then a Gouda

Couldn't agree more.


I didn't get any further than reading the OP and it was so obviously an invention that it was hard to believe people were taking it seriously.

bluelass

Who the hell does he think he is?. And you should not be worrying about this woman's immigration status, you should be getting in touch with a good lawyer promptly. He obviously has planned this for years and if he thinks he can get away with this he will try to get you to walk away penniless with no roof over your head. You must involve your family and close friends you are going to be in for the fight of your life and you need allies on your side.I would like to call this woman some names but I would get banned from the site if I did. And who is she to think you can be made to just walk away with nothing including your own children?. If I were in your shoes I would be considering a hit man no kidding. Now you really need to stand up for yourself be strong and use all your lifes energy and dignity and put up the fight of your life and do nothing less.

Candyapple

Whilst this thread may have been an invention of the OP’s imagination, I think a lot of people would be surprised given the amount of women who are totally oblivious to their husbands/partners having long term affairs. Not to mention I would imagine that statistic would be even higher for stay-at-home dads or households where the woman is the breadwinner – along the lines of men feeling emasculated + easy internet access = recipe for disaster.

Let’s assume the OP’s story was true, well for starters the other woman moving over to the UK to live permanently would require many, many hoops to jump which will be costly and also take many years to legally attain right to remain and/or British citizenship. Not to mention your husband only works part-time at M&S and wants to quit, how is he supposed to support her AND your children? I would think more than likely it’s all pipe dream stuff really; your husband got bored and found a side chick who was just far enough out of reach to really affect his day-to-day life. Now that she has illusions of grandeur of wanting to move over here, the bleep hit the fan and he had to come clean.

No doubt assuming say she did move over here, was your husband planning on moving her into your family home? LOL. Or was she supposed to be renting somewhere for 4 weeks and them two live together as man and wife? Once the honeymoon period wore off and she realised that she would be the one picking up his dirty laundry, dealing with his bad habits, moods, lack of money given that he would have no job, another woman’s 2 kids to contend with who will always be his number one priority over her which all comes part and parcel of living with someone, coupled with the crap British weather, I would imagine their relationship would fizzle out very quickly.

Leave them to it and focus on repairing your relationship with your children which from what you have described if they were in on his lies too, is very damaged, putting it mildly.

Ozzuk

Horrible situation. I'd look at Skoda Octavia.