Disappointed not to be Maid of Honor

duchy

Person_one wrote: »

You could post that on nearly every thread on this forum, but what would be the point?

Complaining that other people have first world problems is becoming a bit of a problem in itself.

I don't really get it- If I have a serious (non first world ) problem I tend to work on that problem rather than getting picky or envious of those with less to worry about.

Jagraf

bluenoseam wrote: »

At the risk of sounding pretty cold hearted - blood is thicker than water, it'd be valid if she'd asked a random, but she asked her sister, that's reasonable to most people.

I would change that to "family is more complicated than friendships" and would suggest that is why she asked her sister.

fierystormcloud

Person_one wrote: »

Semi-related question, when did people start using the Americanism 'Maid of Honor' instead of Chief Bridesmaid?

I have only ever known it as Maid of Honour. Never heard it called Chief Bridesmaid. Maybe it's a generational thing. I am in my mid 30s.

As for the OP; I would be chuffed to not be picked as Maid of Honour, as I couldn't be bothered with all the faff and fuss. Let someone else do it.

I's hardly surprising that she picked her own SISTER to be fair! Even if you think they 'don't get on.' My friend was picked as a bridesmaid for a cousin she had only seen 3 times in a year when she was 21, but she picked her 5 other female cousins, and couldn't very well leave her out, or my friend's mother would have ranted at the bride-to-be's mother. :rotfl:

So I agree that it may have been done out of duty, rather than because she wanted her to be Maid of Honour.

fierystormcloud

gt568 wrote: »

I wish I had some first world problems....:rotfl:

Person_one wrote: »

You could post that on nearly every thread on this forum, but what would be the point?

I agree Person One. I get sick of people saying that. It's SO 2 years ago!

People even put it on the praise, venting, and warnings board. The board is there to enable people to vent, and yet people post on the threads PURELY to say 'first world problems.'

Pathetic.

lulu_92

I'm my sister's MOH and she'll be mine.

I haven't organised the hen party, and the only real things I've done to help is make tealight holders, and pick out suits (which she wasn't happy about as I made a suggestion that cost her £70 more than if she hadn't taken it!)

sulkisu

Sorry OP but I do think you are being over sensitive. I know that everyone is suggesting that family politics are to blame, but maybe she choose her sister to be chief bridesmaid because she actually wants her sister to be chief bridesmaid, regardless of whether they are particularly close or not.

pelirocco

sulkisu wrote: »

Sorry OP but I do think you are being over sensitive. I know that everyone is suggesting that family politics are to blame, but maybe she choose her sister to be chief bridesmaid because she actually wants her sister to be chief bridesmaid, regardless of whether they are particularly close or not.

My view entirely , I find it very odd that people are saying she only chose her sister because of family politics ( or words to that effect ) its as though they are placating a 2 year old .

At the end of the day her sister will always be her sister , friends come and go especially once married / having children .

Person_one

Torry_Quine wrote: »

In my experience the term Maid of Honour is used when the chief or only bridesmaid is herself married.

Really? Because maid means an unmarried woman (or a virgin! :cool:) hence 'maiden name'. It wouldn't make any sense to use it that way.

Person_one

fierystormcloud wrote: »

I have only ever known it as Maid of Honour. Never heard it called Chief Bridesmaid. Maybe it's a generational thing. I am in my mid 30s.

I'm younger than you.

Pollycat

pelirocco wrote: »

At the end of the day her sister will always be her sister , friends come and go especially once married / having children .

There's no way I would have chosen one of my sisters to be a bridesmaid - regardless of how much S**T hit the fan or how much blood was spilled.

The OP has said her friend is not close to her siste.