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Would you end your marriage (or relationship,) if your partner didn't want children?

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  • pollypenny
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    So she obviously doesn't love him enough.

    No doubt a good settlement will be hers, though.
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  • POPPYOSCAR
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    No I would not.


    For me being with the person I am in love with is more important than anything else.
  • dirty_magic
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    I think it would be difficult to continue a relationship if you both had strong opposite opinions on children. There would just be too much resentment in either outcome, child or no child.
  • jackieblack
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    edited 13 January 2016 at 7:44PM
    But at 36, unless she jumps straight into another relationship, her chances of another child are reducing steeply.
    Seems a shame to split up over something that might not work out for her afterwards anyway - assuming that they were in love
    She could end up without another child AND without the man she loved
    (Not sure I've put that well, but hopefully you'll know what I mean:o)
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  • tiger_eyes
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    pollypenny wrote: »
    So she obviously doesn't love him enough.

    No doubt a good settlement will be hers, though.

    I'm puzzled why only one person is to blame in this situation. If we're going to blame at all, wouldn't we blame both equally? Either of them could have chosen to compromise on having/not having children. Neither did. But only the wife is at fault?
  • Petra_70
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    But at 36, unless she jumps straight into another relationship, her chances of another child are reducing steeply.
    Seems a shame to split up over something that might not work out for her afterwards anyway - assuming that they were in love
    She could end up without another child AND without the man she loved
    (Not sure I've put that well, but hopefully you'll know what I mean:o)

    I know what you're saying. :)

    And that's what I thought. She is not over the hill,but she is no spring chicken either, and as you say, unless she jumps straight into another relationship, and the man agrees to have a baby right away, all this seems pointless.

    As someone said earlier, there must be more to it; and surely they would have discussed this before they got married.

    Bet his ex wife Michelle is popping the champagne tonight, as he left her for Dani, and now the relationship is over.

    I don't know why he left Michelle, but I think she is waaaaaay prettier than Dani.

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  • Yes, but kinda the other way round...my ex decided he wanted children and I don't. It is a deal breaker in my world.

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  • scooby088
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    I have never wanted to father a child and in all honesty I would never change my mind.
  • HOWMUCH
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    This happened to a friend of mine her husband died and about 10 years later when she was 42 she married a man of 28. He was only 12 years old than her eldest daughter. He knew she'd been sterilised and didn't want anymore children, he said he didn't either. Fast forward 12 years when he was 40 he left her for someone his own age who has a small son. They married and had his own child with her. So people change and perhaps they do get to a certain age and wish to have their own child.
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