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Mum's moved in with us - paying her board?
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It certainly didn't read to me that you "owe" your parents anything. In fact the post includes "friends" as well as family as people they would not wish to charge for anything, which in this instance is accommodation.Post #3
If that isn't saying people OWE their parents for raising them, then I don't know what is!!!VfM4meplse wrote: »Presumably she looked after you without charge for at least 18 years of your life? And she will help around the house and with childcare?
I find this attitude quite disgraceful, wouldn't dream of charging anyone - relative or friend - anything. But you could charge what you like I suppose, given that it will be no surprise to her. Go ahead and get the full market value, in for a penny, in for a pound.
~Laugh and the world laughs with you, weep and you weep alone.~:)
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:o:o Sorry I do rant a bit.
You don't say!
OP, you'll have to sit down and work out some calculations. Work out how much extra food you think you'll be buying, how much she will add on to the utilty bills etc.
Does she agree with you both that she should contribute or is it a sticking point?0 -
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Wouldn't have thought the it was worthy of a wow tbh. The OP's mum isn't a penniless refugee - she's a lady who's sold her own house so presumably got some cash from that, and retired so possibly getting a pension. Most people in that position would want to contribute out of their own sense of dignity and independence.
It's a generous gesture from the daughter and SIL to open their home to her why the heck would it be wrong to accept money to cover her costs in this case?0 -
Georgiegirl256 wrote: »You don't say!
OP, you'll have to sit down and work out some calculations. Work out how much extra food you think you'll be buying, how much she will add on to the utilty bills etc.
Does she agree with you both that she should contribute or is it a sticking point?
Yeah that's what she needs to do.
I am sure any decent person will agree to contribute something. Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!
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I would give it a few months to settle a bit (and for you to see what the real increase in costs is) and then charge whatever the difference is in bills that will change (heating, water etc). I wouldn't think of splitting bills that will remain unaltered and that you would have anyway eg. internet, council tax paid TV subscriptions etc.
I wouldn't try and make a profit or anything but it seems right to me that any extra costs you have to take on are covered, especially as your mum will be saving money by living with you and not having to pay her own bills.0 -
Wouldn't have thought the it was worthy of a wow tbh. The OP's mum isn't a penniless refugee - she's a lady who's sold her own house so presumably got some cash from that, and retired so possibly getting a pension. Most people in that position would want to contribute out of their own sense of dignity and independence.
It's a generous gesture from the daughter and SIL to open their home to her why the heck would it be wrong to accept money to cover her costs in this case?
Exactly! It is perfectly acceptable to charge the woman, and it's unbelievable and hilarious, that people are trying to make out it's SO SHOCKING that people are suggesting she should.
Quite unbelievable actually. :rotfl:Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!0 -
Maybe some of you can take your conversations off board and give some space to the original question and OP who had probably gone !!!!!! and headed for the hills.0
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Armchair23 wrote: »Maybe some of you can take your conversations off board and give some space to the original question and OP who had probably gone !!!!!! and headed for the hills.
You've already had a go at people about this. But people ARE giving the OP advice. :huh:Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!0
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