Mum's moved in with us - paying her board?

pollypenny

Haven't read the whole thread, but I'd see it as mother sharing bills rather than paying board.

If she is contributing to the running if the place and child care that seems the fairest way.

It's unlikely that she's living like a lodger.

Mojisola

engineer_amy wrote: »

my parents currently have all four grandparents living with them in various states of disability.

Heating costs ballooned as the heating is on nearly 24/7, however food costs didn't really increase so much as they all eat relatively little, and they buy some food themselves.

Mum and dad would never dream of asking them to contribute financially as the only income is state pensions (work pension for one)

missbiggles1 wrote: »

That does mean that they'll have around £600pw between them as spending money though.

Why on earth wouldn't the four parents contribute towards their living costs?

KxMx

pollypenny wrote: »

Haven't read the whole thread, but I'd see it as mother sharing bills rather than paying board.

If she is contributing to the running if the place and child care that seems the fairest way.

It's unlikely that she's living like a lodger.

OP has commented further that Mum isn't doing any childcare or household chores.

So it seems the lady in question is living like a lodger, and not contributing financially as was agreed prior to her moving in, which OP later confirmed.

missbiggles1

Mojisola wrote: »

Why on earth wouldn't the four parents contribute towards their living costs?

That's what I didn't understand. One parent without any scruples is possible but to have 4 seems very unlucky! (Sorry for going all Lady Bracknell)

Brighton_belle

I can't understand why a (seemingly) fit and healthy woman in her 60's would need to be living with family so early on: it could be another 20 years before she actually needs help.
It seems so young to 'give up'.
It would have seemed so much better to move nearer if that is what she wanted and buy her own flat - this would mean more company, but a chance to build her own life as well as her daughter and her husband having privacy and the pleasure of visits and shared family time but not on top of each other.


I think the OP's husband is a remarkable man to give up so much when it is hard to see it as completely necessary.
Having to whisper in his own bedroom? *shrugging in bewilderment smiley*