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Mum's moved in with us - paying her board?
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What an absolutely dreadful attitude! No child owes their parents ANYTHING. I didn't have my daughter so she could look after me when I am old and infirm, and let me move in free of charge, and eat her out of house and home, and wait on me hand and foot, and run me around everywhere I want to go.
Only the most selfish, self-entitled, and narrow minded people expect people to give them something because THEY gave something to them.
I am so glad I am not like you. And I bet my daughter is too. Hell would freeze over before I expect her to be my slave when I am old, just because I 'spent 18 years raising her!'
Good grief!
Re the OP, yes DO have board off your mother. Have off her whatever extra she is costing you. Simples!
I think you are being harsh here. It's not a dreadful attitude, quite the opposite. He/she is happy to help out his family and that's to be applauded. He's not doing out of a sense of duty, it's out of a sense of family.
Just because it's not your cup of tea doesn't mean it's the wrong attitude. Many families prioritise helping each other out.
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Georgiegirl256 wrote: »I think you've read VfM's post wrongly. If anything she has the opposite attitude to the one you think she has.
I agree with her in theory, but I also think that we don't know the full ins and outs, and for a lot of families that situation is not possible due to money being tight or whatever. In those situations I do think that the mother should pay some board of some sort.
I think for most people though it wouldn't be an issue as most parents would offer. I know my Mam would without a doubt.
I don't know who this is aimed at, but *I* certainly haven't read her post 'wrongly.'
In the post I quoted first of all, Vfm was blatantly saying that the OP (and everyone else who has been 'raised by their parents') OWES them big time.
They do not! She is wrong. And I have not misread ANYthing.
And I don't give a fluff if she supposedly 'has the right attitude... ' That was not what I was on about!!! I was criticizing her for saying people OWE their parents for raising them ... Saying that is flat out wrong.
And THAT is what my post was about. I am not saying looking after elderly parents is wrong. I never said that!!! I said Vfm has no right saying people OWE their parents for raising them!Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!
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Where was the word "owe" used by me?In the post I quoted first of all, Vfm was blatantly saying that the OP (and everyone else who has been 'raised by their parents') OWES them big time.Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!
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VfM4meplse wrote: »Where was the word "owe" used by me?
Post #3VfM4meplse wrote: »Presumably she looked after you without charge for at least 18 years of your life? And she will help around the house and with childcare?
I find this attitude quite disgraceful, wouldn't dream of charging anyone - relative or friend - anything. But you could charge what you like I suppose, given that it will be no surprise to her. Go ahead and get the full market value, in for a penny, in for a pound.
If that isn't saying people OWE their parents for raising them, then I don't know what is!!!Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
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Ok, glad we cleared that up LR.
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Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!0 -
Hey can we just stop hacking bits out of each other and let the OP be heard and have some helpful replies.0
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Hmm, perhaps a little support with comprehension is in order. I'd recommend you start with the intensive reading.Post #3
If that isn't saying people OWE their parents for raising them, then I don't know what is!!!
:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!
"No man is worth, crawling on the earth"- adapted from Bob Crewe and Bob Gaudio
Hope is not a strategy...A child is for life, not just 18 years....Don't get me started on the NHS, because you won't win...I love chaz-ing!0 -
VfM4meplse wrote: »Hmm, perhaps a little support with comprehension is in order. I'd recommend you start with the intensive reading.
:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
My comprehension skills are fine ta.
And I know exactly what you were saying, even if you keep denying it. I know what you were saying, and so do other people on here, judging by the responses you have had.
Keep kidding yourself though.
Ta-ra. :wave:Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
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Armchair23 wrote: »Hey can we just stop hacking bits out of each other and let the OP be heard and have some helpful replies.
I agree.
But I have given her some advice... DO charge the mother. Charge her whatever she is costing. The OP doesn't owe her mother anything. So have off her whatever she is costing.Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!0
:o:o Sorry I do rant a bit. This discussion has been closed.
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