Uncles Interfering Friend What To Do About It?

bluelass

I went to see my aunt earlier on and stayed just over two hours. As soon as I arrived just before 7pm my uncle started crying and told me he had not been fed anything and tried to grab the box of chocolates I had bought for my aunt. A plate of more than acceptable food and a drink was on a table next to him and aunt said he refused to eat it. When me and my aunt were talking he was shouting and accusing her of neglecting him which is rubbish anyone can see he is well taken care of. My aunt told me he has been like this for over a year now and she has had enough. My uncle stood up ran to the front door opened it and started screaming for help non of the neighbours responded and my aunt phoned my eldest cousin and asked him to come over as he only lives a short distance away. He carried on screaming until my cousin arrived and I was amazed how quick uncle could move as he has been limping and dragging himself along everytime I have seen him. My cousin arrived and told him to stop it and he wouldn't stop so my aunt went upstairs to get some things together and my cousin agreed she should leave and stay with him and his wife for a short time. Whilst they were upstairs getting her things my uncle asked me to toilet him to which I replied no you can do it yourself and he deliberately wet himself. When my cousin and aunt came down he got told off and to go and get changed which he refused to do. He then told the three of us he had enjoyed the attention from the woman in the pub because my aunt gives him none. As you can imagine my cousin and aunt got very upset with him and my cousin called the out of hours SS adult care to give them an update and that my aunt is at breaking point and would be leaving. We also discovered my uncles so concerned friend has been taking advantage of him. When he picked him up in the taxi to go to a pub less than a mile away he told uncle it was £10 and he had been giving the man £20 every time they had gone out.

tea_lover

Yeah, of course.

bluelass

tea_lover wrote: »

Yeah, of course.

Whatever you want to think tealover. I was there to see him do it.

mellymoo74

Ok so if this actually happened (which it didnt) it's in no way making you think that your uncle may either have a water infection that can mimic dementia or dementia in your bitter mind he's doing this for attention
Really

bluelass

Of course he has been doing all this for attention. Just got a text to say my aunt is happy and getting settled at my cousins which is good. My uncle has no infections he seen his GP last week. He is now alone in his house and this hopefully will make him realise what a good lady my aunt is.

mellymoo74

Had you thought about seeking get help blue lass?
Carrying all that anger and bitterness at the world can't be nice

bluelass

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Had you thought about seeking get help blue lass?
Carrying all that anger and bitterness at the world can't be nice

Im not bitter or angry mellymoo. I confess losing my mum last year has hit me hard and I will never fully recover but this has no bearing on my thoughts towards family or friends etc.

Poppie68

I wonder if we will ever be subjected to a tale of her husband?
'My older husband has ran away with a woman who doesn't meddle'. Or 'I've just discovered my husband is having an affair with his daughter in law'

mellymoo74

But you are.
I know people post in times of stress but even allowing for that the way your talking about everyone isn't very nice.
If you don't learn to let all the anger and bitterness go your going to be ill

bluelass

I would not have issues with my husband to post for advice about him on here. My stepsons partner is now getting regular counselling and along with the meds has improved greatly I noticed this over the Christmas period. We had a small buffet on boxing day to which of course she was invited along and I even selected a nice lush perfume for a gift for her.