Guests - how welcome are they, really?

DevilsAdvocate1

Many years ago, we went on holiday and my friend house sat with her boyfriend. So I guess they felt comfortable in our home.

Anyway, some months after our holiday we went on a night out. I was pregnant so was driving. When we got back to my house, we were all desperate for the toilet. Anyway, my friend's boyfriend said he would rush to the ensuite, my friend then said she would go to the upstairs bathroom leaving me and hubby to fight over the downstairs loo.

But I felt very uncomfortable as I'd left my dirty underwear on the floor of the ensuite :eek: I tried to think of some excuse, but he told me it wasn't fair for me to have to rush upstairs as I was so pregnant (34 weeks). I couldn't think of any reason why he shouldn't use the ensuite, but I could never look at him the same way again (embarrassed).

FBaby

Someone with excellent manners would have waited, someone with good manners would have asked, someone with a lack of them just do as they please. Certainly not something I would be bothered with though, we make sure the bedroom and en-suite are tidy and clean anyway.

Gavin83

Gigervamp wrote: »

Well, as shown by some of the other replies, I'm not the only one who considers the bedroom a private space.

It's where we keep our private stuff. Wouldn't want the MIL coming (pun not intended!) across your rampant rabbit, or bondage gear!

Also, some people are messy and leave dirty undies on the floor etc.

I'm well aware, yours was just the first post I quoted.

It's fine if some people want to consider certain rooms private, I just don't share the same view. I generally put anything private away so it isn't on display and I'm not really bothered if people see my undies. But that's just me.

tea_lover

I couldn't care less which loo a guest uses, but I am horrified that people leave dirty clothes on the floor! Who leaves dirty pants on the bathroom floor???

PasturesNew

tea_lover wrote: »

Who leaves dirty pants on the bathroom floor???

People who had stuff to do and were behind, so went into the en-suite, quickly stripped off, showered, dashed out to get dressed, got distracted, didn't think anybody'd be going in there anyway .... phone rang, door bell went, something else happened.....and it's all forgotten... and in your own en-suite, nobody should/would ever know!

heuchera

tea_lover wrote: »

I couldn't care less which loo a guest uses, but I am horrified that people leave dirty clothes on the floor! Who leaves dirty pants on the bathroom floor???

Can't help agreeing. How long does it take to pick up a pair of knickers and throw them in the laundry basket?

I wouldn't encourage people to go into my bedroom, though. It's my space, and bearing in mind, even nice people snoop!

Person_one

fierystormcloud wrote: »

I agree with this. The most pretentious people I know insist on giving you a tour of their home. I hate it. It's a flamin' HOUSE !!!!!!. What am I meant to say? Yeah great utility, yeah great en suite, yeah great conservatory *yawn....* I have seen it all before and I am not impressed. People who show off their house are like baby bores IMO.

They think everyone else is interested and fascinated by what they have; but they're wrong. Some people with big houses/new houses even think people are jealous, but no-one is.

And this is just me, but......the people who are the most pretentious I know and love to show off their house, seem to have the highest mortgage and the biggest amount of debt.

But in answer to the original question, I would not use the en suite unless I was desperate and I had asked first.

I love having a look round if my friends have moved house/renovated etc. I'd be disappointed not to see what they'd done with the place, is that odd?

Person_one

pollypenny wrote: »

How did we manage when most houses just had one loo?

Most still do, don't they? Its only houses built in the last few decades that went mad for having loads of toilets and 'en-suites' at the expense of proper living space.

PasturesNew

heuchera wrote: »

How long does it take to pick up a pair of knickers and throw them in the laundry basket?

Not everybody has one. I don't. Had one in the past, hate them as they're often ugly or odd shapes. I tend to toss my dirty clothes into a pile in the corner of the bedroom .... after all, nobody will ever see them. At BEST there might be a folded duvet cover that's due for washing over the pile.

Gigervamp

Person_one wrote: »

Most still do, don't they? Its only houses built in the last few decades that went mad for having loads of toilets and 'en-suites' at the expense of proper living space.

Yeah, I've only ever lived in houses with one loo. Would love a second loo here because due to my cancer, I often need the loo immediately, only to find someone else is in it.