Guests - how welcome are they, really?

VfM4meplse

Following on from a similar thread on this board, I intended to post this WWYD a little while ago.

You invite friends over for lunch - making a group of about 10 in total. You've known these friends for years on a social basis, visiting each other's home etc although are only particularly close to four of them. Your home has a guest bathroom and an en-suite (accessed through the bedroom only), which you have proudly shown everyone as part of "the tour" when you moved in.

Are you bothered if one of the not-so-close friends uses your en-suite without asking first, as the guest bathroom is occupied?

heuchera

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Following on from a similar thread on this board, I intended to post this WWYD a little while ago.

You invite friends over for lunch - making a group of about 10 in total. You've known these friends for years on a social basis, visiting each other's home etc although are only particularly close to four of them. Your home has a guest bathroom and an en-suite (accessed through the bedroom only), which you have proudly shown everyone as part of "the tour" when you moved in.

Are you bothered if one of the not-so-close friends uses your en-suite without asking first, as the guest bathroom is occupied?

I see what you mean, but it depends how desperate they were, I suppose :rotfl: If you've gotta go you've gotta go.

lincroft1710

You mean you actually let guests use your bathroom???

Gigervamp

I wouldn't dream of going into someones bedroom to use the ensuite unless told it was ok.

I consider bedrooms to be a private space, even if I'd been given the tour.

Callie22

Looking at it from the other way, if I were a guest I wouldn't feel comfortable at all using an en-suite, mainly because I'd have to go through the bedroom to use it. Bedrooms to me are sacrosanct and the most private space in a house, and you just don't go into someone's unless you've been specifically invited (and even then I'd feel odd lol). I'd just wait and use the main bathroom, I just couldn't let myself into someone's bedroom. Let's face it, most people wouldn't expect you to go in there and you never know what you might find!

AcidHouse

I wouldn't want to use the en-suite as in my mind it's just not a guest bathroom. I once house-sat for a couple and they had an en-suite but I never used it. Just feels one step too personal

BrassicWoman

I wouldn't give a tour, it's a bit pretentious.

melanzana

We had an outside toilet when I were a young un.

First world problems.

What about the upstairs "family bathroom" was that occupied?

You shouldn't have shown off your en suite lol! I wouldn't and don't. so everyone thinks there is only the downstairs or upstairs loo.

fierystormcloud

BrassicWoman wrote: »

I wouldn't give a tour, it's a bit pretentious.

I agree with this. The most pretentious people I know insist on giving you a tour of their home. I hate it. It's a flamin' HOUSE !!!!!!. What am I meant to say? Yeah great utility, yeah great en suite, yeah great conservatory *yawn....* I have seen it all before and I am not impressed. People who show off their house are like baby bores IMO.

They think everyone else is interested and fascinated by what they have; but they're wrong. Some people with big houses/new houses even think people are jealous, but no-one is.

And this is just me, but......the people who are the most pretentious I know and love to show off their house, seem to have the highest mortgage and the biggest amount of debt.

But in answer to the original question, I would not use the en suite unless I was desperate and I had asked first.

burnoutbabe

it seems strange you;d be bothered at the not so close person using the en-suite over a closer friend.

If i had been shown it as part of the tour and I was desperate, then yes I'd probably use it in an emergency (rather than going back down, asking permission, going back). As I'd have seen that the en suite was clean and presentable for guests that day. (where as at another dinner party, months later, it may not be usable as a right mess with hosts getting ready)

heuchera

Actually, how did you know someone had used it? Or is it better not to ask _pale_