Guests - how welcome are they, really?

peachyprice

Why would anyone give guests 'the tour', traipsing them through the bedroom to view the ensuite then get all precious about those same guests using it?

Serendipitious

PasturesNew wrote: »

When entertaining, it's best to keep guests confined within the party wing, by locking the adjoining door to the main house. It stops all this awkwardness.

A couple of portaloos in the grounds are also useful.

VfM4meplse

heuchera wrote: »

Actually, how did you know someone had used it? Or is it better not to ask _pale_

Because the protagonist in our tale was told by said guest and wasted 20 minutes of my life moaning to me about it :wall:

balletshoes

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Following on from a similar thread on this board, I intended to post this WWYD a little while ago.

You invite friends over for lunch - making a group of about 10 in total. You've known these friends for years on a social basis, visiting each other's home etc although are only particularly close to four of them. Your home has a guest bathroom and an en-suite (accessed through the bedroom only), which you have proudly shown everyone as part of "the tour" when you moved in.

Are you bothered if one of the not-so-close friends uses your en-suite without asking first, as the guest bathroom is occupied?

nope, not bothered at all, you showed everyone where everything was on "the tour" so if they needed to use a bathroom and one was occupied, they knew where the other one was, it would make perfect sense to me that they'd use the en-suite.

Gavin83

Gigervamp wrote: »

I wouldn't dream of going into someones bedroom to use the ensuite unless told it was ok.

I consider bedrooms to be a private space, even if I'd been given the tour.

I really don't see the difference between a bedroom and any other room of the house. What's so private about a bedroom?

To answer the question I wouldn't care, I'd want guests to feel welcome. For starters I wouldn't start banning them from certain parts of the house.

Gigervamp

Well, as shown by some of the other replies, I'm not the only one who considers the bedroom a private space.

It's where we keep our private stuff. Wouldn't want the MIL coming (pun not intended!) across your rampant rabbit, or bondage gear!

Also, some people are messy and leave dirty undies on the floor etc.

GoldenShadow

As long as they left it in a decent state I wouldn't care. I would go 'erughhhhurghhhhh' inside a bit if they had clearly flushed with the seat up, probably more so than in the family bathroom which doesn't have all my make up brushes on the side etc.

Saying this, if I was a guest at someone's house, unless I was a v close friend I would wait to use the family bathroom and would not go via their room to use the en suite. Not unless I asked or they had said it was OK.

I'm not bothered if people go in my bedroom. I'd be bothered if they went in my wardrobe or bedside table (largely because sometimes things get chucked in there and not sorted through as often as they should) but that's all.

KxMx

I'd just like the suggest the en-suite user may have needed to go urgently and couldn't wait or hold it. When you are in that situation, there is likely not time to go back to the host and ask permission to use en-suite either, not to mention the embarrassment.

I have a medical condition, have had for years, am very matter of fact about it, yet even I on occasion am embarrassed by my toilet needs!

heath480

Simple question.


Simple answer.


Yes I would be furious if someone did that in my home.

pollypenny

How did we manage when most houses just had one loo?