Please tell me your husbands are more helpful than mine...

GoldenShadow

I feel your pain. OH moans at me for being naggy. I would rather nag and not do it for him than do it myself usually though else I don't think he takes the hint.

I'm on annual leave over xmas and he only has today and Boxing Day off. I don't think that means I should do everything though, especially because I am doing the lion's share as I am off. He's been better today but perhaps as his parents are here!

12_month_challenge

GoldenShadow wrote: »

I feel your pain. OH moans at me for being naggy. I would rather nag and not do it for him than do it myself usually though else I don't think he takes the hint.

I tell my OH there is no such thing as nagging.. I call it reminding. If he done it the first time I asked I wouldn't have to remind him :rotfl:

tooties

Well am i alone in wondering if the OP stuck her head in the oven yesterday instead of the xmas roast? or is she still spinning around trying to seat the guests?

What an unfortunate family as they are missing out on having a great relaxed crimbo like the rest of us.

Merry Christmas everyone especially the OP

regards

Pollycat

tooties wrote: »

Well am i alone in wondering if the OP stuck her head in the oven yesterday instead of the xmas roast? or is she still spinning around trying to seat the guests?

What an unfortunate family as they are missing out on having a great relaxed crimbo like the rest of us.

Merry Christmas everyone especially the OP

regards

Not you're not alone.

She logged off immediately after posting and hasn't been back since.

I hope her Christmas turned out to be less stressful than we worried it might be.

Goldiegirl

With all that she's got going on for the next two weeks, I'm not expecting to see her until sometime in mid January.


But I am curious as to how it all panned out, and whether she'll take steps so she doesn't allow herself to be in this position again.

maman

Pollycat wrote: »

Not you're not alone.

She logged off immediately after posting and hasn't been back since.

I hope her Christmas turned out to be less stressful than we worried it might be.

It would seem the OP's life revolves around her children and dog and she'd like to do a bit more for her DH's business but sees her SAHM role as taking priority. She also seems to resent the fact that her OH won't/can't prioritise helping her with the family over his work which is presumably what finances the household.


I've never been or wanted to be in that position but I suppose there must be a tendency to make the SAHM role more demanding than it need to be. Sort of justifying existence IYSWIM. So she's made enormous plans to invite the world and his wife to stay for Christmas , do fabulous food etc etc.


If I've got it wrong, then I'd love to hear that for example, she works full time in a high powered job, it's her DH's family that he's invited, that he'd throw a hissy fit if she didn't cook Delia standard for every meal ..... but I'd be surprised.;)

Andypandyboy

Christmas is a time when you can get caught up in the hype of it all. We have all done it I suspect. Then you take a step back and ask "what actually has to be done, and what would it be nice to do if time/effort/life was no barrier?

So, seating plans (unless world war three would result if it was not done!) home made everything, a military plan for entertainment options etc, can all be left undone.

We put unecessary pressure on everyone around us if we strive for perfection at the expense of family harmony.

ciderwithrosie_2

a) I would never stay with anyone without helping out as much as I could, I wouldn't expect to be waited on.
b) However, I could not stay with anyone as stressed as you, it would feel really uncomfortable, to be told where I could sit and what we were having defrosted for dinner each night - go with the flow a bit more.
c) I always tell people that visit or stay - take us as you find us. The house is clean and comfortable but don't open the cupboards! With regards to your OH's family, they're coming to see you, not the house!
d) I do have things I like to get done before Christmas, but these plans are for me only, I don't inflict them on anyone else because the men I share my life with (OH and 3 sons) are really not bothered, as long as they've got food and beer and a telly.

theoretica

I defence of seating plans, if everybody doesn't know everyone well and the tables are large enough that conversation isn't general but people are mostly talking to people seated nearby than a bit of thought about who sits where can really add to the success of a party. But I don't feel they should take long to work out.