How to get my brother to move out

pinkshoes

Good luck for tomorrow OP!

Please go out and buy a lock barrell today and change the locks. He probably has another key cut...

If you feel you might cave in, is there someone that can be there with you to help you?

BigAunty

pinkshoes wrote: »

Please go out and buy a lock barrell today and change the locks. He probably has another key cut...

I considered that but then the brother struck me, from the OPs description, of being utterly disorganised, a drifter, someone who is !!!!less (with perhaps a bit of learned helplessness there because of his utter passivity in social situations). He avoids taking responsibility, making decisions, taking action.

So I think copying a key might be beyond him - too much effort. He is used to sob stories to get his way rather than direct criminality.

However, from a risk perspective, the OP can remove any possible issues by changing the locks which won't cost much or take long.

misterzim

The GF was never married to her ex but I guess it's feasable that they have another arrangement (my brother did mention a court odered payment of some kind?) that I'm never going to understand as my brother will more than likely bend the truth all in the hope that we all feel sorry for his situation.

My finace and myself feel that changing the locks is unnecessary as BigAunty said, he doesn't have that level of forethought in to anything let alone cutting a new key!!!

Don't worry, we won't be caving in! As long as he shows up tomorrow (I can see him not turning up) his belongings will be nicely packed for him (yes, I'm doing something else for him!) ready to pick up.

thorsoak

Has he collected his stuff?given you a forwarding address for his mail? Handed back his key?

Said "thank you for having me"?

misterzim

It went well! He arrived on time and took everything. Left his key and even said, as a thank you, that he'll decorate the room he was in for free!! Not bad!

He has, however, asked if I can write him an email to explain why he can no longer live with us, so that he may use that as a case to take to the local council and ask them for housing help?

thedogsmum

If your brother gets further into debt, which is a possibility, now he's buying a car on finance, could it affect your credit rating, by continuing to use your address?

emmsie123

The council wont rehouse a single man who works.
They'll tell him to rent privately.

Gigervamp

thedogsmum wrote: »

If your brother gets further into debt, which is a possibility, now he's buying a car on finance, could it affect your credit rating, by continuing to use your address?

No, it won't. Debts are tied to the person, not address. It would only affect OP if they shared finances.

prosaver

hes not still there. cant be?

culpepper

Really I think if it were my room, I might be tempted to NOT have him decorate it because it is another means of regaining access and so possibly getting to stay over while spending x amount of time decorating.
It sounds like he wants the letter so that it amplifies his being homeless to you and not the council and makes you feel guilty for having 'put him in the situation' which you really are not. You should not have to justify yourselves ,you are not parents ejecting a minor from your home or anything.

He can always rent a room if he cant find a one bedroomed affordable place.