7 years - no proposal

ognum

Pollycat wrote: »

I know lots of people - admittedly older than you may be talking about - who didn't live together and are still together.
40+ years ago, it wasn't really the norm for people to live together before marriage.

I think what was the norm is very personal. I was married 40 years ago, I lived with my partner before I got married and so did the majority of my friends and acquaintances.

40 years ago was the mid 1970s when frankly where I lived it was more promiscuous and free thinking than most places today!

seven-day-weekend

Pollycat wrote: »

I met and got married within 6 months.
We didn't live together.
The marriage lasted 11 years - and didn't end because of any of the reasons you list above - which is probably a fair bit longer than marriages between some couples who did live together before getting married.

I know lots of people - admittedly older than you may be talking about - who didn't live together and are still together.
40+ years ago, it wasn't really the norm for people to live together before marriage.

We got married after four months, without living together first, and are still married 44 years later.

If there are things that you don't like about the way the other person 'lives', then you mutually agree to do it differently, or you learn to live with it. You wouldn't not marry someone just because they leave their socks on the floor and don't close the toilet seat!

Pollycat

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

We got married after four months, without living together first, and are still married 44 years later.

If there are things that you don't like about the way the other person 'lives', then you mutually agree to do it differently, or you learn to live with it. You wouldn't not marry someone just because they leave their socks on the floor and don't close the toilet seat!

I think you're agreeing with me.

seven-day-weekend

Pollycat wrote: »

I think you're agreeing with me.

Yes, I am I was confirming what you said |:)

Peter333

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Same with us, except we got married after four months. As you say, it makes it 'special'.

Can you explain why your wedding/marriage is more 'special' because you didn't live together first, and because you got married within 4 months of meeting?

Why is your relationship more 'special' than that of a couple who have been together 5 years, and lived together for 3 years?

seven-day-weekend

Peter333 wrote: »

Can you explain why your wedding/marriage is more 'special' because you didn't live together first, and because you got married within 4 months of meeting?

Why is your relationship more 'special' than that of a couple who have been together 5 years, and lived together for 3 years?

No...., you have misunderstood, it doesn't matter how long people have known each other, or whether they live together before marrying, it is the getting married that makes it special. IMHO.

Peter333

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

No...., you have misunderstood, it doesn't matter how long people have known each other, or whether they live together before marrying, it is the getting married that makes it special. IMHO.

Oh you mean getting MARRIED made the relationship more special. I thought you meant it was more special because you got married quick, and because you didn't live together first.

Sorry.

It's easy to misconstrue things on message forums.