Do I hire a private investigator

cbrown372

Why check a random woman in Jersey when allegedly he worked in Guersney?

Raine_E_Day

FBaby wrote: »

But she said that his surname was common hence having to go through thousands of profiles. Still don't get it! So the guy's name is John Davis, she looks at all the John Davis, then all the John Davies, find thousands, but none that has his picture. Then somehow, she ends up looking at all the Jane Doe Davies, stops randomly at Margaret Davies for no particular reason, who happens to live in Jersey, so clicks and finds that she is indeed married to a John Davies. She can't click on that picture, so she creates a bogus name and hold and behold, she can now click on it and sure enough it has his picture and his profile.

I guess what I don't get is how she could have found the wife first when she didn't know the spelling of the actual surname and had no idea what her first name was? Can you do a search on a name and get profiles of people married to that particular name without accessing theirs? I tried searching for my husband name and no where did my name came up in the search.

This is exactly what I have been thinking. Something definitely does not add up.

BigAunty

cbrown372 wrote: »

Why check a random woman in Jersey when allegedly he worked in Guersney?

Well this whole thread could be a troll-fest anyway - there is a hoard of imaginative relationship problems being posted here recently. I always recall one poster who came back to mock their ability to 'trick' people on this forum.

However, the OP posted that her fiance said that he was working away for a couple of months in Guernsey. Nothing he has told her to date has been true - fake family status, fake friends, fake name, fake date of birth, fake job, fake address, fake school, followed up by a bogus marriage proposal and a hollow stab at fatherhood.

It's a shame that the 'engagement' ring is so expensive (although I think the resale value of rings can be very poor), She could post it back to his home address (forgetting to put his name on the envelope?) with a brief note saying 'The wedding is off. Please can you get in touch about child support as our son could do with a new pair of shoes and there's a school trip coming up that he'd love to go on ', enclosing a picture of them all together, plus a snap of him at the hospital cradling the newborn and enclosing a mobile number in case the opener of the letter wants to get in touch...

It's a shame to take him down through his missus though, in such an insensitive way - she is an innocent in this and if he's able to juggle two separate households, then the chances are that she's complete in the dark about his true nature.

cyantist

She said his name was common, but some the the misspellings of it might not be so common. Also maybe the timings of her finding him on facebook work out because someone here suggested searching for similar spellings and maybe the OP decided to listen to them when this wasn't something she'd thought of doing before.

This woman might have had a profile picture that contained a picture of her husband, or looked familiar for some other reason. Also her ex said he was working on Guernsey which was always likely to be a lie, so him spending the time in Jersey instead makes perfect sense.

It seems far-fetched because most people are not dishonest to this level, so would never imagine that someone could/would go to such lengths to create fake lives. But they do.

FBaby

If the story is true, she has now found the address of his company. Easy to contact him that way without the wife finding out about it, although there is of course the question that maybe she would much rather know. I certainly would be massively grateful to be told.

Mr_Costcutter

I'm pretty sure that most people who are extremely wealthy, would not have a public profile on Facebook.

BucksLady

Guest101 wrote: »

Completely confidential and only shared via a court order, and that is impossible to get for this situation.

The GMC guidelines issue advice to GP's and there are situations where a court order is not deemed necessary.

FBaby

but some the the misspellings of it might not be so common.

But she couldn't know before that is actual surname -hence his wife's- was the uncommon one (at that point, didn't even know it was his real name!) so the likelihood of just happening to click on her profile with no first name is quite incredible.

This woman might have had a profile picture that contained a picture of her husband

Surely that would such a key found in this all saga that I can't believe it is a detail amongst all those shared that OP would have omitted to share.

I'm still sitting on the fence, I just find the very timely explanation as to how she has finally found him odd but maybe OP will come back and explain better how she got to searching his profile to randomly coming across his wife's.

fairy_lights

Mr_Costcutter wrote: »

I'm pretty sure that most people who are extremely wealthy, would not have a public profile on Facebook.

Why would you assume that?

fairy_lights

FBaby wrote: »

But she couldn't know before that is actual surname -hence his wife's- was the uncommon one (at that point, didn't even know it was his real name!) so the likelihood of just happening to click on her profile with no first name is quite incredible.

If the OP and her family members have been desperately trying to find him and all searching for him on facebook, trying any names that could be connected then I can believe they could have stumbled on his wife's profile.
I've found old uni and school friends before by doing roundabout searches like that - searching for their name, and clicking on a profile that looks like it could belong to one of their family members and looking through their friends list (I know that makes me sound like such a stalker but I swear I'm not )