Name change after marriage?

Littlebettyboop

I was quite happy to change my surname, as my husband has a very nice - and exotic - surname .

melanzana

Littlebettyboop wrote: »

I was quite happy to change my surname, as my husband has a very nice - and exotic - surname .

As long as you are happy to do so, great.

Some are not, and are castigated for that choice too.

Littlebettyboop

melanzana wrote: »

As long as you are happy to do so, great.

Some are not, and are castigated for that choice too.

Oh yes I understand, and it is unfair. It must be quite upsetting if a lady wants to keep her name and her hubby (to be) refuses to let her do it, with threats of calling off the wedding! :eek:

Primrose

Funny atory. When i got engaged back in the 1960's a rather old fashioned aunt of mine asked me what my married name would be. I told and she immediately picked up up that my married surname would still begin with the same letter of the alphabet as my maiden name.
"0h how convenient dear" she replied, "you won't have to change the initials on your pyjama case"!!!

Even then it sounded funny. Today when I relate the story it sounds unbelievable. We often laugh about it.

selloptape

Hope your partner and family aren't controlling in other matters OP. Just don't let yourself be railroaded and trust your instincts. There is nothing wrong or unusual in keeping your own name if you want.

NoGoodNamesLeft

My husband took my last name when we got married and he didn't need to do it via deed poll. Just a copy of the marriage certificate was enough when changing bank details, etc, same as for a woman.

We chose to use my name partly because it is more unusual (his was in the top 10 most common), partly because I am studying science and am already known under my own name and finally becausehe wanted to have my last name. It should always be a choice!

It's more worrying that the OP's husband seems quite dismissive of her feelings - it's not really about the name. Is he like this in other areas?