Middle child as an adult, choosing a maid of honour

balletshoes

do you have to have a MOH? Could you not just have bridesmaid(s)?

GlasweJen

balletshoes wrote: »

do you have to have a MOH? Could you not just have bridesmaid(s)?

Regardless of what I call it whoever signs the register is MOH, due to logistics my friend won't be around when we collect the license so it will need to be someone who is travelling with me (friend lives abroad)

The kids are desperate to come, we're getting married in the most magical place on earth and the kids have never been!

silvercar

balletshoes wrote: »

do you have to have a MOH? Could you not just have bridesmaid(s)?

I agree with this. You are having 40 people not 200, you need to cut down on the number of roles or you will be all chiefs and no indians.

Bella73

It doesn't have to be the MOH who signs the register, why not have both your Fathers or Mothers do it, no arguments then.

Have your sister/s and friend as bridesmaid they can call themselves whatever they want as makes no difference really. Give your flowers to your friend to hold sorted.

onlyroz

Not that I know much about wedding traditions, but isn't the Maid of Honour meant to be unmarried?

If it was me I wouldn't go in for any of this nonsense. Why say "Person X is the Maid of Honor" and "Persons Y and Z are bridesmaids". Why not just say "My wedding will be at location A, please come along". No need to give anybody a specific job at all. As for witnesses to sign the register, pick your best mate, and your partner picks his best mate. Simples.

Buzzybee90

GlasweJen wrote: »

Regardless of what I call it whoever signs the register is MOH, due to logistics my friend won't be around when we collect the license so it will need to be someone who is travelling with me (friend lives abroad)

The kids are desperate to come, we're getting married in the most magical place on earth and the kids have never been!

Please tell me it's not Disney.

GlasweJen

Lol it's disney, the only place that we both liked that won't allow a big wedding, believe me if my mum had her way we'd still have 200+ guests despite being abroad.

We're not getting married in a theme park, we're doing it in one of their hotels.

Buzzybee90

Whenever anyone says that, it's always Disney!

Paris or US?

Lunar_Eclipse

I wouldn't have either as MOH; I would choose someone else or not have one.

I would definitely invite your sister(s) to the wedding unless you want to be the cause of severe family conflict going forward.

GlasweJen

USA, Paris is too close lol!

Both sisters would be invited but I can't justify having 3 bridesmaids - it's a small wedding! My big sister is married with 3 children, on the wrong side of 35 and really should be over this whole "being in a wedding" thingby now. In addition to not actually asking me to be in her wedding (and complaining that I was) and then converting my nieces to a strange religion just to get them into a school and not even inviting me. I literally found out the week before by which point I couldn't get time off work. I don't feel like a big part of her life, we see each other when summoned to my mums at the same time.