Middle child as an adult, choosing a maid of honour

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

This is why, if somebody were ever daft enough to want me to be their wife, I'd insist we went to Vegas for the trashiest shindig possible, complete with Elvis wigs, aliens and the like.

In fact, as my mates are almost exclusively blokes, ball gowns and DMs would go wonderfully with bandanas and cloth caps.



Suppose you could opt for Oldest Bridesmaid and Youngest Bridesmaid? Or Flower Girl/Page Boy Herder and Person Ensuring the Wedding Dress isn't Tucked Into the Wedding Knickers?


The kids will manage being banned - get them a special present each if they don't go.

And have a lovely time - it really was worth telling him how you felt when you were so ill, wasn't it?

GobbledyGook

I've just recognised your name Jen! I'm so glad you are well enough to be going to Disney for your wedding. That's wonderful

KRB2725

In all honesty I really don't get the adult bridesmaid thing. I just don't see the point when all they do is stand in a (sometimes) nice dress and hold flowers. I wasn't prepared to make choices between child bridesmaids either, neither was I prepared to have a silly amount of them, so I had none. My husband didn't have a best man either.

We asked our respective brothers to sign the register.

Whilst I am of the opinion that it is your day and therefore you should have things the way you want, I don't think it is very kind to pick one sibling over another therefore publicly snubbing the other, however justified this may be.

You will enjoy your wedding far more if you try to alleviate rather than cause friction.

Torry_Quine

It is the norm in my experience that you have an adult as bridesmaid, not least as they are supposed to organise the hen night and help the bride on the morning of the wedding. Also it's usual for the bridesmaid and best man to be the witnesses. A child is more likely to be a flower girl.

HB58

I've never seen bridesmaid and best man sign the register, only ever 2 parents (or persons who have had a parental role, even if not biologically a parent).

So this shows that traditions change, they are not set in stone. Why not start some new ones of your own?

Torry_Quine

HB58 wrote: »

I've never seen bridesmaid and best man sign the register, only ever 2 parents (or persons who have had a parental role, even if not biologically a parent).

So this shows that traditions change, they are not set in stone. Why not start some new ones of your own?

Parents as witnesses is a new one on me.

Georgiegirl256

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Parents as witnesses is a new one on me.

Why? Who's meant to do it?

Torry_Quine

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Why? Who's meant to do it?

As I said I've only ever seen the best-man and bridesmaid as witnesses.

onlyroz

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Why? Who's meant to do it?

Anybody you like. We picked a best friend each.

Brighton_belle

We didn't have a best man or adult bridesmaid - although common, they are yet another unnecessary 'thing' if they don't suit your needs or circs
We had one of our siblings and one of our best friends sign the register. Both sets of parents were present.