Here we can all be heard for a little while

calleyw

well found away that seems a bit better to get the roots out.

Two out now but still hard work but not as it would have been if I had not found this method out. really need a jet washer as that would make it much easier to power off the dirt and see the roots LOL!!!

I don't even have an out door tap!!!!

Only another 6 to go. 5 of them ok but one will be a massive pain. As its 2 ft round and I have already dug down nearly the same and no end in sight LOL!!!

I am now sweaty and covered in mud. And now just killing time until I find out about the car.

Grammar I am carp at and also can't speel for toffee :rotfl:

Yours

Calley

whitewing

I think somewhere there is a documentary/articles on a scientist who was studying brains who realised that he actually had psychopathic traits. (He had murderers in his extended family, if I remember rightly).

heartbreak_star

Ooh Whitewing, if you find that please let me know!

I am finding all the discussion on MH absolutely fascinating.

I am also very proud of myself as I ran 5.5k last night. It was slow, but I did it

HBS x

calleyw

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I am also very proud of myself as I ran 5.5k last night. It was slow, but I did it

HBS x

Well done. I might if I my back can take it go out for another jog/walk tonight.

Yours

Calley

Indie_Kid

I really want to run tonight. But having just gone for a walk whereby I kept trying not to nod off, I'm going to have to give it a miss!

Wellyboots6

Good news, Little Sod didn't disgrace himself too badly at the kennels so we have agreed he will be having a sleep over if he gets on OK doing a couple of day sessions there to check he doesn't destroy the place!

Bad news, my dilemma is getting more complicated. I have decided I do need to take action as it appears noone else will, and don't seem to be taking the situation as seriously as I think it should be. Problem is, if I were to follow usual procedures, the people I would report things to are actually those involved. Therefore need to find another way of doing things, but not sure how without putting people at risk if it is discovered that action is being taken. Feeling sick worrying about it

Pyxis

Katy, would it help for you to PM the retired policeman chap on here? You could always PM him and ask if you could PM him for advice, if you see what I mean!

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

I am always willing to learn more about the correct usage of my native language. For example, I only discovered the subjunctive in English when I first encountered 'sia' in my Italian class! It's pretty much defunct in English nowadays though, everyone seems to use the present indicative instead. I realised that I had been using it without realising on occasion and people would tell me I sounded archaic :eek:

I probably need to find the grammar topic

If I were ever to stop using the subjunctive, I would be very sad!
Be it ever so humble, there's no place like home.
May he rest in peace.
Let it be me!

Actually, people use it every time they say Goodbye!

I love it!

To be honest, though, we convey the same sense of doubt and possibility when we use the terms would/could/might/perhaps etc.

whitewing wrote: »

I think somewhere there is a documentary/articles on a scientist who was studying brains who realised that he actually had psychopathic traits. (He had murderers in his extended family, if I remember rightly).

I saw that! It was very interesting! Be not afraid though, it did point out that just because you have some psychopathic traits, it doesn't mean you'll end up being a psychopath!
For example, if I remember correctly, the less empathic people were tending towards the psychopathic end of the spectrum, so I think we're all safe! :rotfl:

codemonkey

Dashes in quickly, throws snacks into the fort and runs away again.

Feeling overwhelmed. In the space of 2 days I've gone from having no work to all the work.

Waves_and_Smiles

Good morning all!

Pyxis, Borderline Personality Disorder has the name because it is thought to be on the border of psychosis. It isn't quite there but a lot of the symptoms can be the same. The difference is someone with psychosis can act irrationally, have odd thoughts and hallucinate for no reason (due to permanent chemical imbalance unless medicated and still sometimes then), with BDP it only tends to get that bad in very stressful situations. Another name for it is Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder which I hate and don't use because it immediately sounds like you're a wreck, to me anyway.

Elsien, there are indeed people who are heavily medicated and psychopathic who cause no harm to others. They have to live with always being seeing as having the most dangerous of the disorders. However, their emotional capability tends to be very different, they tend to feel little guilt or remorse for example so it isn't as bad as it would be for someone with more of complete emotional range.

Waves_and_Smiles

Oh, and to my knowledge I have never met a psychopath but I did have a friend for years who was a sociopath and trusted me enough to admit her diagnosis. She had also had CBT to try to teach her how to blend into the world and take others feelings into account. We had a very good friendship because I could tell her absolutely anything about what I was going through and she would never judge me, she had no emotions towards it one way or the other so could be very objective when I couldn't. She was constantly calm, I could tell her I needed to be admitted to hospital because I was very ill and she would be telling me to do the practicalities like check bank accounts, pay bills in advance, etc. She had no emotion either way about how I was feeling so could be totally objective at all times. She became my go-to person for when I knew that I was being irrational, I knew she would always tell me what to do that was in my best interests because there was no logical reason why she wouldn't. To her everything was a list of facts that she worked through to find the optimal conclusion.

I used to help her with questions like how do I speak to my neighbours? She couldn't do small talk at all because she didn't care about it (or them) but had to appear to. We used to roleplay possible conversations so that she knew what to do. She was eventually quite good at looking outraged, happy, etc at the right times although with me she would be honest. I remember there was a newspaper report about a child being murdered and she asked me if she was right that it was a sad thing? Then asked why strangers who didn't know the child were sad? It was morally wrong to her to kill a child because they were there to further the population but she was completely devoid of emotion about it. She wasn't cruel at all, there was just a huge nothingness where an emotional response should have been. Everything she experienced was cold, hard logic no matter what happened.

What I did learn from her about sociopathy is that people who have that trait go through life feeling very confused. They are surrounded by all of these emotional humans who to them act irrationally and it makes no sense to them at all. If she could have felt loneliness it would have been the best way to describe it. She did feel as she lived on an alien planet for the most part. It can make some sociopaths feel very superior because they see humans as being driven by their emotions and weak and ridiculous. She did have traits of that but often also wished that she could experience the other side so that her life didn't feel so flat. They also tend to be quite manipulative because there is no guilt or regret stopping them being so. She manipulated others constantly but never me because her relationship with me was to be honest so that I could help her fit in, there was nothing to gain by manipulating me.

She said one of the loveliest things anyone had ever said to me. One day she asked how I was and then stopped herself and said "Omg I actually care about the answer. I really care about how you are!" That is a huge thing for a sociopath, they go through the motions for appearance sake but there are no feelings there. So for her to genuinely care about me was wonderful for both of us, it really shocked her and me too! It showed that even though she had almost no feelings at all other than anger, sometimes one crept through.

It was an interesting and rewarding friendship and one that meant a lot to me. She was never manipulative or harsh with me but she could be very much so to others. She did want to stop it though and we tried to find ways, but it was within her personality to naturally be that way. So all she could do was learn to suppress her natural reaction and act out one of the fake scenario's that we had role played. She learnt to do it quite well.

So you can have a good friendship with a sociopath. It just takes a long while to develop and one has to adjust their outlook on emotions and put themselves in the other persons shoes very much. You can't expect the socipath to do the same because they have no emotional reason to do so, although they might let you into their world if they think you will be useful to them!